<BR>well my h just left. I did'nt ask where, and he did'nt say where, but I know it with this women he says is just a friend. I just don't know what to do. He ask me to leave again today and go to my parents. But I am staying. I am not going to pursue him or ask question. I pray his guilt starts working on him.

Great Big Hug! (((((((((essence)))))))))))<P>I remember so well watching my husband walk out the door while I was pregnant.... I stuck with him untill the baby was one week old and he was there for the birth, then the week after when he spent more time gone than at home I told him he may as well take his things with him, he was never here anyway..<P>I don't know how strong your feeling, but there is something to the separation at least keeping you in a space where you don't have to watch them go all the time, and you are not so wearied in the 'what if he leaves' because he is already gone..... It keeps you from loosing any more love if your at the end of your rope, and sometimes that is what it takes to make them see what part of their needs you were providing and they start to miss it......<P>You know your situation the best, how much you can deal with and will know when you can't bear any more..... I will be praying for you dear sister in the lord, I know of those things you could be going through mentally and emotionally, much less all the physical changes during a pregnancy... Its a tough road to go down!<P>keep posting and know that I will be praying. <P>------------------<BR>Jesus is the only answer!<BR>His blessings, Cozy

honestly i don't know how you do it. I couldn't stay at home knowing that when he walked out my door he was taking someone else out. Yet, I guess in some ways I have though my husband usually met her for a drink or to walk around at work. Only once did he go out with her when I knew it, before he moved out. I fougt the separation for a very long time. I still don't think it is the best way if you can avoid it. When they are still living with you you have daily interaction with them. But I also agree with Cozy. <BR>In my situation the separation has done a lot of good. I have been able to get uncrazy and confident and feel better about myself. My h has had to do tings on his own, like clean the toilets. He has had to pay way too much for an apartment, because he thought the ow was moving in, but didn't (they had planned to split the rent). The space away has allowed my husband to see me in a new light, and the time spent with the ow has taked the fantasy out of it. I'm lucky from the stand point that she only comes for about a week a month. Then again if she had moved it, I think it would have really been over by now. <BR>H and I were talking last night at my daughter's recital. When she came last month, she imposed herself because he was feeling more depressed then usual, and she thought if she came that it would go away. Well, it didn't and in fact he seemed to feel even worse when she was here, and she saw that she couldn't fix it. He no longer views her as the love of his life but rather as a good friend. I would still like to move into the position of his best friend again, but I think it is coming and will with time. <BR>So if you can avoid separation it is best, but if he continues to flaunt the affair right in your face, maybe if he has what he thinks he wants, he will find out it is not what he wants..I would ask him to leave, you should not be the one to leave, you're not he one acting out.<P>Father, <BR>'I ask that you take this sister in your arms and show her how to seek after You with all her heart, mind, soul and spirit. Provide for her in all ways and fill all the empty spaces within her with Your Spirit, comfort, guidance, grace, love and truth. Bring this wayward h home. Loose him from the destructive friendship and show him Your truth. I pray in Jesus name, Amen<P>