If you feel inclined, please post your update on this thread and your prayer request for tommorrow night's Prayer Time and Cyber-Tea at 11:00 PM EST. I'm looking forward to our prayer time tomorrow night. <P>God bless each of you. (I'll post my update later --- it isn't good)

Our 17th wedding anniversary was June 11. We went out Sat nite 3/4 of the night was wonderful, we were in sync (not the boy-band singing group ), but at some point, getting late, too many drinks, too many memories, we fought.<P>My H is completely discouraged about our progress. I really see that we've been trying to heal our marriage in our own strength again, rather than allowing God to do his work with us.<P>My prayer requests: that we both experience forgiveness given and undertaken, that we can drop the bad baggage of our marriage, that we build on our love with God's help, the commitment firms up, and that divorce is no longer an option.<P>

We are making very slow and still steady improvement. <P>1. Please pray for my husband to find the Lord and to be softened in his heart towards spiritual things. <P>2. Pray that I will become physically attracted to him again, and that I will love him as a child of God, and for all of his good qualities. <P>3. Pray that we will all successfully shun temptations in all forms and withstand the lies of the Enemy.

I posted my update as a separate post before i read this...oops.<BR>My prayer focus this week is:<BR>1. OW hears the voice of God in deciding to stay away from my town and my H now that she lost her baby. I pray God will comfort her in that, but really lay upon her heart that she has a chance now to make the situation right, by staying out of our lives.<BR>2. That God will continue to open H's heart to the growing sense of partnership and emotional intimacy that I have seen this weekend with H.<BR>3. That God will continue to place Godly friends in H's life and mine to encourage us to continue to try in this marriage.<BR>4. That God give me peace to get past the sadness, and the strength to continue in Plan A...and the clarity to see the work He is doing in my marriage and the patience to wait until God moves H to a more physical love with me. (We are regaining affection, little by little ...but he won't allow me to try to meet his sexual needs at all)<BR>5. I pray that God will speak to H's heart and encourage him to move back to our room soon..I really miss him.<P>Sorry it is so long, but I am in turbo prayer mode now that I am not working for the summer....i feel we are at a crossroads and a lot is happening at once that could go either way.<P>Kim

My prayer requests:<P>1) That the Lord will get thru to my H and soften his heart and open his ears to the Lord.<P>2) That H will totally loose his desire for OW.<P>3) That H will see a clear way back to our marriage.<P>4) That the Lord will give me love, understanding and forgiveness for H.<P>I guess that's it for now....<P>Thanks.<BR>Mrs.O

update... H moved out last week sat... staying with friends... calls and talks to the kids...will only talk to me if they ask him to or if he needs some financial info.... sounds on top of the world everytime he calls. found out hes going out of town this weekend don't know really with who or what. he has seen a lawyer 2 weeks ago. don't know the progress. Today is really a bad day for me... crying all day. <P>Please pray... the Lord restore our marriage... that a hedge of thorns be put up around this family and around my H... that the lord changes my H's heart, mind and direction... that he destroys the bond and the sexual deisre that he has for this OW... that the Lord not only instruct him as he sleeps but 24 hours a day...Remind the lord as in Malachi 2:16 it states"the lord hates divorce"...I've surrendered all of this to our heavenly father to do what ever it is he has to do to rattle my H's cage... bring him to his knees and to DESTROY that relationship he is in and bring my H back home... Also to change me to be a good christian wife,mother and friend..... that I would never throw this in my H's face if he returned home and that I would not only not let my H down, but I also not let the Lord down as well. <P>Thanks.............s

Just a note to my request earlier on this post. I found out last night that OW beeped my H at work yesterday...at his new job where he doesn't need the distraction. His affair almost made him lose his previous job. I don't know what the conversation was about obviously, but she definitely took the initiative, so I worry that she's not planning on staying in NY. However, God is good...H and I had a very intimate sexual encounter last night that started with lots of lotion and massage ..his feet, arms legs where they were sore from new job...my tummy and hips where I fear I will get stretch marks(didn't start out to be a sexual thing, but H led the way...seemed to have been his plan from the start...nothing rushed, nothing "out of control" that could be blamed later on the heat of the moment) It was kind of touching because in rubbing lotion on my tummy he could feel where our daughter had balled herself up in the middle...he said he felt a "big part"..head or bottom, and a small part that felt like an elbow. No kissing on the face, no I love you, and he slept in his room..that will take time I know....but this was a big BIG jump as he has been "faithful" it seems to OW for weeks. God is working such miracles with us, but it is IMPERATIVE that SHE not come to my town. What is the best, most powerful way to pray for that one thing??????

Hi all, things are coming to a head here and I would appreciate prayers in regards to me maintaining firmness with love, of stating limits and consequences and consistently following up on them. My step-daughters are coming for the Summer this weekend, but I may be moving unless my husband meets certain criteria. The last five days have been one giant tidal wave, but I do see God working here. Pray for my husband to take a risk and to swallow his pride and to reach out to another man for support and clarification of what it means to be a man of God.<P>Rootbeer, saw your prayer request on the other praying wives group. Hugging you from here!

Here's my update:<P>Husband has taken a turn for the worse, back to drinking every day. He got a letter from his atty. stating that our divorce was set for the final trial on August 21. I told him that if he did not want that to go through he needed to do whatever was necessary to keep that from happening. Leaving it up to him to resolve. Husband STILL has not started the Batterers Intervention Classes, which he was court ordered to start over a month ago. Husband is planning to go back to CA to work - I have voiced opinion on this to him - in a "nice" way (I do NOT want him to go back there). Things have been basically back to ground zero since he came back. Has his nasty attitude back. Husband spent last Sat. night mocking my faith in God, and God Himself. I am about to the end of the rope. H thinks things are "just peachy" (well for him they are). We are not fighting or anything like that, I guess it is the hurt I feel over his behavior that is the worst. He is oblivious to the pain he causes me, and if I tell him how I feel, he acts bewildered and says "how do you figure things are bad". It hurts to love my husband, I don't feel love in return, nor are any of my emotional needs being met. He says I meet all of his. The bottom line is - <B>Husband drinks WAYYYY too much and takes me for granted</B>.<P>Prayer request:<P>Please pray that the Lord will fill me to overflowing with the Holy Spirit enabling me to discern when God is speaking to me. I pray that the Lord will hold my hand and guide my every thought, word, and action, bringing me a peaceful heart. I pray that the negative feelings I have for husband will be removed if its God's will. I ask that the Lord intervene mightily in my husband's life, bringing him to total brokenness before Him. I pray the Lord will take control of the pending divorce situation. His will be done. I pray the Lord will give me wisdom and strength during this trial, and a glimpse of His will for my marriage. Most of all, I pray that my husband's soul is saved, and he invites Jesus into his heart very soon, and becomes the Godly head of our household the Lord wants him to be, and is delivered from his addictions to alcohol and lust. <P>Thanks ladies. I'm looking forward to tonight.

I pray for my husband to repent of his sins, restores his relationship with God, Restores his marriage to me the bride of his youth, God will remove satan's blinders from my husband, my husband looses all desires for the ow, the ow looses all desires for my husband God sends the ow the one he has choosen for her not my husband. I pray my husband goes through the plans he made with me for the weekend and God restores our marriage. I pray the divorce is dropped before I have to respond on 6-21, I pray for all marriages to be healed and made the way God intended for them to be. I Thank you God for answering these prayers and for all answered prayers, Thy will be done, In Jesus name I Pray Amen.

Yesterday I posted on "prayer request", just found out my H went to see OW after coming back from the US and told me he would be here for a while. I was planning on doing some stuff together(he moved out in April), I was too sad, he just told me that he lives here(CANADA) and when he's away(which is alot because of his job) he misses being here, but when he had a chance to be here he decided to go see OW.. that really hurts. He tell me he loves me and he doesn't love OW yet, but all of his action tells me the opposite... He says he doesn't know why he's doing this and he would seek for a help. He's not a religious guy and he used to say people who's religious turned him off, but now I started to say I'm praying and today he called(from OW's town--behind her back) and said it's good I pray for him.<P>Prayer requests:<BR>1. Please pray for my H that he can be strong, and see things clearly, and he can realize what he really wants.<BR>2. Pray that I'll be strong, to go through all of the things that did and may hurt me wisely, that I will have peace and take care of myself(right now I'm not doing very good)<BR>3. That I do good Plan A(I'm sooo bad!):-)<BR>4. That OW realize what she's doing, and give her strength to do the right thing and find happiness from it.<BR>thank you,<BR>MF

Wow! we have a full house tonight.<P>I pray that Jack pick up his Bible and read God's truth. That he return to a saving relationship with Christ. <BR>I am still praying that the ow be permanently removed from Jack's life. That all their communication be filled with strife and discord. That the ow be confounded and exposed. <BR>That Jack continue to see me from a new perspective according to God's will. That God continue to light the fire for me in Jack's heart. That Jack and I continue to get closer and increase our friendship. That Jack is loosed from all ideas of separation and divorce; the ow; adultry; pride; depression; and negative thinking, by the power of Jesus' blood. That Jack be binded to the mind of Christ, the blood of Christ, his wife, his children, and his marriage.<P>Thanks

Dear Praying Wives, I know I'm late on this, you are all probably in bed by now, and that's where I'm headed.........Please forgive my lack of writing with updates, etc.<P>I think of you often and check in for updates and prayers,but just don't have the energy to write.<P>I work evenings- don't get home 'til after 12:30- 1:00 AM usually.<P>Our house sold after only a week or so of placing the ad.The realtor hadn't even placed his ad- this was from H's and my ad.(Now we have to pay the realtor ten grand for doing absolutely nothing. I didn't want to go with one, but H insisted.)<BR> <BR>This sale is good news to everyone but me. I have until July 14th to find a place and leave my "built from scratch" home....Such a pretty place- we worked so hard on it for six years.<P>My H's prayers were answered.<P>It doesn't seem real to me yet that I have to leave.Still struggle with finding meaning to my life.<BR>Reminding myself:<P>"God is sufficient"<P>"Obey and wait patiently"<BR>(God WILL bless us)<P>There is nothing really new to report on our relationship. He is still living away from home- in twelve days it will be three months since he left. He has been here a lot finishing up the house, and we have been working steadily on it together.<P>He has stayed over a couple of times(stays on the couch.He has no desire for me.)<BR>He remains detached, but we do talk, and I bring up memories(like your scrap book Hw, only I just talk about our old times together.We do have lots of pictures, but it is too hard to look at them.)<P>I still pray for a restored marriage, but sometimes think that maybe we never even had a marriage in the first place, let alone one to restore.(Satan at work.)<P>I am reading "How God can and will Restore your Marriage" by Erin Thiele(You've probably heard of it, AW, it is from Rejoice ministries-was it you or ? who told us of the site....)I do get encouraged by Bob and Charlyne.<P>H told me he is smoking a lot of pot.Trying to escape.<P>I asked him if he dreams of me---he said all of the time.(Instruct them while they sleep...)<BR>So let's keep praying for that, also to keep placing believing Christian men in his path, God to keep changing me,H's redemption, and to change H's heart.<P>IJN, AMEN<P>SueB I am glad you posted, although I hear your discouragement- actually-it sounds like a lot of us are this week, also......<P>Keep praying!God knows what we are going through- how our H's are treating us!<P>Never give up,and pray for more faith!<P>I see so many newcomers- glad you are here, but wish none of us had to be here.<P>Love and prayers,<BR> Joynicole @webtv.net

JoyNicole, I am so very glad you posted! I've been wondering how you were doing. Praise God. The enemy has really gotten ahold of your H huh. The Lord will bring him back into the fold, JN. I'm praying for you and will keep on praying every day. I've printed out all the prayer requests and am taking them with me on our trip to Minnesota. Love and prayers to you, JoyNicole,<P>AW

Please pray for my wife and the reconciliation of my family forever. My W is withdrawing and has resumed EA with OM. It is likely that the relationship will deepen and make recovery all the more difficult/painful. I continue my resolve to be a pillar of strength, but I still need much help to remain strong and stay focused on my mission. My children need not suffer if I stick to my plan and accept Christ and the holy spirit as my salvation.<P>Please pray for my wonderful wife to seek guidance from the Lord.