Hi friends,<BR>All of you have been so wonderful about supporting me in this whirlwind mess my H has been in and we are making TREMENDOUS progress (I won't go into it here, but if you've been keeping up and want to know the awesome power of how God has responded to all the prayer support I've had, see posts under plan A/B..i updated this a.m.)<BR>However, H still isn't to the point where he can talk any more about his feelings. He is sorting out the fact that she lost the baby she said was his (keep in mind affair didn't start until mid April and she returned to her country early May....H told me about the pregnancy weeknd before last, and she lost it 2 days later.) She has moved to Florida...had been in NY since her return 2 weeks ago...we are in SC. And though we are making progress, there apperas to still be phone contact with OW. H appears to be trying to hold onto the fantasy, the friendship, who knows???? And he still has not told me himself about the miscarriage (info courtesy of a mutual friend who is championing our marriage. He is the only person H will confide in and listen to right now.) Anyway, I knw from SIL that OW said she wanted to end the affair, no more contact etc...and I think she may have told him so on Tuesday...she called here, gave me a fake name after much hesitation, and whatever she said to him upset him a great deal. Yesterday he spoke with her on the phone after work for 10 minutes or so (evidence suggests, at any rate) but then we had a WONDERFUL evening. I really need to concentrate my prayer on God breaking the emotional ties that bind the two of them together...part of which, I'm sure is the sorrow at the loss of the baby. H loves children, and she is 32 and already had one miscarriage before at 3-4 months. I am trying to pray with dedication for their ties to be broken and for his love and affetion and commitment for me continue to grow. However, at the same time, we found out this week that my grandma has colon cancer. She has surgery next Wed or Thurs. to see how far it has spread, if it has...she is the little angel in my life. I talk to her everyday and I take care of her. i cannot stand the thought that she may not make it out of surgery, may not make it to see my baby. (They have said the surgery will be hard on her...only an epidural allowed because of her age, heart and lung condition.) And to make matters more complicated, my mom has a drinking problem that she doesn't admit to...and for that reason she has been somewhat removed from my grandma for many years. She has ridiculed her, refused to go get her groceries or take her to doctors unless absolutely necessary, etc....and I fear that now that she knows about the cancer the guilt will consume her. She is already showing signs. So I am in deep prayer about these issues as well.<P>So, I need help friends...please continue to pray for my marriage. I am afraid that if I let up on the amount of prayer for H in order to focus on the other issues, somehow we'll backslide. I know that is unreasonable thinking, but it is how I feel right now. I am still praying every day for H and for Grandma and mom, but I feel like my thoughts are scattered.<P>Bless you all for being here on this board and for sharing so much of yourselves with people like me who really need prayer support.<P>Kim

Dear Father God,<P>I just thank you right now that you have answered all of our prayers regarding Kim's marriage. Thank you Lord that you have removed this woman from her husband's life, just as you did for Abraham and Sarah. Lord God, I ask you to increase love in this marriage with Kim and her husband.<P>Father, The Holy Spirit has been putting it in my heart to begin to pray for more love in my heart. You are showing me that this is a key to overcoming and forgiveness. Lord, I ask that you increase the love that Kim has for her husband, Lord. Let her love grow so that she can protect her husband from the pain she has experienced, and Father I also am reminded of your words when you say that "Perfect Love casts out all fear". <P>Father, you didn't give Kim a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. Thank you Lord that you will increase love in her heart. <P>Father, protect their marriage, and thank you that you always finish what you start. Continue to remove this OW from their lives. Father, thank you for the distance, and let her live as far away as the east is from the west. <P>Please bestow wisdom upon Kim, Lord. You say that if we ask for wisdom you will give it. You say if we ask for faith you will increase it. You say that the "truth sets us free". <P>Father, I am claiming all of your promises for Kim, In the Name of Jesus, our Saviour.<P>Amen.

Kim,<BR>Keep praying and giving it to God. Seek Him because You want Him in your life. God is in control, and He is working. When is your baby due?<BR>I'm sorry I don't remember.<P>I have been using a binding and loosening prayer over my husband and marriage 2-3 times a day, and I am really seeing progress. God has always been working, but I have seen major movement as of late. My h moved out in Sept. The ow was to move here in March. After spending three weeks together at Christmas (the most time they had ever spent at one time together) they decided not to move in. Since then my h and I have steadily been having more to do with one another. We started spending more time together during tax time, since we still filed joint (Finally something good to say about paying taxes!) Then we started dating about six weeks ago. He told the ow that we were dating and she asked if he wanted to date others, this week. He said no just my wife! I know she is not completely out of the picture yet, and he hasn't said he is coming back, but the movement is in the right direction and I know that God is going to restore this marriage, never the less it has been a long 5 years...We have a date this weekend again.<P>So Kim, it sounds like things are moving in the right direction also. If you would like a copy of the prayer, leave me your email address here and I will send it to you. <P>The most important thing for me to come out of this mess is a closer walk with Jesus. He wants me to seek Him because I love Him and desire to be close to Him, not because He can do for me. He is not a magic wand. I am so thankful for this trial from the standpoint He has changed me so much. 5 years ago I was so insecure. Funny I have actually gained self esteem through this whole time. Obviously not because my husband had an affair, but because God woke me up and has steadily moved me to give up control of the situation ( I am a slow learner it has taken me 5 yeras) and give it to Him, learning to trust and have faith in Him. Someone asked me if I would be able to trust my husband. I said yes, not because my husband is trustworthy at this point but because God is. I know that when God restores this marriage He will do it completly, bacause God always finishes the job and He can only do it perfectly.<P>I am praying for you, let me know if you want that prayer.<P>Father, I lift up Kim and her husband. Lord, we come to You in prayer because we know that You hear us and You answer us. You are worthy of our praise and honor. Oh Father touch this man with your Holy Spirit and loose him from this ow and bind him to his wife, marriage and his unborn child. Lord, we praise You for all You have already done in Kim and her h's life. Jesus we pray by Your blood. Thank You , Lord for Your love, grace, compassion and for always being there. In Jesus name, Amen.

Hw...I would love a copy of the prayer.<BR>My e-mail address is dklm2000@aol.com.<P>And the baby is due September 18. I cannot wait! She moves so much now...I just want to hold her.<P>Thanks,<BR>Kim

Kim,<BR>I just sent the prayer to you. If you don't get it let me know. I sent it as an attachment. But since we both have aol, it should be fine, I think.<P>hw

Father, you don't give us anything more than we can handle, so this sister must be a very strong one. Father, help her to rest in you, to feel your presence, the caress of the spirit to comfort her as she takes each step in accordance with your Word.<P>Father, if it be your will, remove the illness from this special grandmother, drape your garment over her and perform a miracle that only you can do. Let this woman feel your presence and the peace that only you can provide. give Kim a mighty strength to endure the emotions felt for this special woman.<P>And Father, show Kim's mother Your face and touch her heart that she might repent and reach out to you. Soften her heart and remove this addiction from her in such a way that only you can have the credit for it. Give Kim a boldness to deal with her, to love as only you love and a compassion that will put her mother to shame for the years wasted.<P>We ask that you bind the spirit of discontent in her husband and replace it with the spirit of love, overflowing for his wife and unborn child. Let him be in awe each time he looks at his wife of the miracle that you are doing in her body.<P>And Father, each time this precious gift kicks, let Kim feel the magnitude of your love for her, let her be reassured that you are mighty and in control and that nothing happens that you do not allow for your purpose. Let Kim be in awe that your purpose for her and her baby is a mighty one for your kingdom. Put an umbrella shield of protection around them and keep them under your wing. Guard her heart and mind and allow no evil or discouraging thought remain near her. Bless her this day and let her heart rejoice at how you care for her. IJN, Amen.