Well, inspite of all the progress we've made in the past two weeks, the consequences of H's affair are haunting us. i just looked at our bank statement and discovered that not only did H not have $ to put into household account last week because of the calls he made to her in COLOMBIA last month, but he also missed making a deposit while he had so much on his mind when he found out she was pregnant. He doesn't keep good records and has always gone directly to the bank, so when I asked if he'd done it, he said he was sure he had.....however, I'm sure it was that $ he used to go visit with her to discuss what was to be done about the child and them and us when she moved to the usa.<P>I am so distressed...I've never been behind in bills at all and now we are $800 short for the month, and we have extra bills that were the result of things he did while she was a more immediate issue. H did call me from work tonight (he bought me dinner again tonight so I wouldn't have to cook) and I told him what I had found and that I was really upset about what to do. He seemed to take it all well and tried to get me to not worry. I have no idea what we will do, but this is his mess and he knows it. I need to trust God to find us a way out, and trust that He is using this mess to drive a point home to H about responsibility, or something...or to drive him to a decision...maybe knock him off the fence.<P>God has worked some incredible miracles in my marriage lately. I can only pray that He continue to restore the marriage in the way He wills it to be.<P>Kim

Kim, you've got the answer to your dilemma in your own post <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I need to trust God to find us a way out<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>The Lord will provide Kim. Turn this over to Him, and don't worry anymore. Our heavenly Father can do all things and He will come up with a solution for you right in the nick of time. Delight in Him, keep praising Him and thanking Him. You've got so much to thank Him for, He is doing a mighty work in your life and your marriage right now. Let Him help you overcome this trial. He loves you so much Kim and wants you to call upon Him for his help.<P>Lord, I thank You in the highest for the tremendous works you are doing in Kim and her husband's lives. Praise You Father, You are so wonderful to us. We love You and worship You, giving all the praise and glory to You. We praise Your Holy Name for the restoration of Kim's marriage Father. Thank You Jesus. Lord, Kim is having financial troubles, I pray that Your will is done in this situation. Father please help Kim to turn this burden over to You to handle. Thank You Lord for answering her prayers. You have done so much for all of us and we are not worthy. We gratefully accept what you've done, and offer our sincerest thanks. You are our Lord, our Savior, our Redeemer. In Jesus' name I pray, AMEN