Friends,<BR>Remember my distress over the friend asking if H could take SIL to work for him? Well, all day Saturday, I prayed everytime there was a break in the cnversation about what to do. How to handle it...how to conquer my own fears and continue to build love and trust. well, as H and I finished cleaning the pool and sat in the water God inspired me to action. i couldn't believe aht i said, even as the words rolled off my tongue.<BR>I invited the SIL to come to our house when H picked her up from work since no one was at home at our friend's house. H picked her up, she came over, and we invited another friend as well. We played cards, ate dinner, had a ball. Turns out the SIL had already picked up on some discord between us at an earlier event, and when he left to go to the store, she apologized to me for the inconvenience of our friend having asked H to take her to work. Suddenly a calm came over me and I felt the need to share with this woman. I explained that I had no problem with him doing favors for her, just that in the past there had been friends who had no respect for our marriage and that recently, between his dad's visit and the OW arriving (friend, I said) H was unsure about our marriage. She was wonderful! Told me she would join me as a prayer partner, and that she would take whatever opportunity presented itself to encourage H in subtle ways to appreciate his marriage. This is exactly what I needed because his dad's argument was that I could never be accepted by Hispanics..well, here is a Hispanic woman who I know my husband respects, who is telling him what a beautiful wife he has, talking to him about the miracle of the child I'm carrying, talking to him about intelligence and inner beauty being most important because everything else is surface and fades. She, by befriending me and taking great pains to keep us all playing and joking and laughing...all in Spanish, mind you....gave my H a chance to see me as the wife he used to adore (and perfectly well accepted and functioning in the Hispanic culture).<BR>She even went so far as to get my wedding album off the shelf to look at and oohed and ahhhed over how beautiful it all was and how happy we were. She even asked H to look her in the face and say he wasn't happy. He just grinned. He was for the whole evening like the h I married...except the kissing, I love you and ring thing.(will that ever come?)<BR>When everyone left, we watched a movie in bed and went to sleep TOGETHER.<BR>This a.m. we hung out lazily by the pool all day, and when our neighbor came over, H again was very involved and affectionate with me...then he disappeared. I caught him in the baby's room, writing in her journal for the first time. I was encouraged, I think , by what he wrote. I would be interested in what you all think .<BR>He wrote, among other things, that he was sorry he'd been a bad daddy for not having written any before....that he wants her to know that he is so happy she is a girl and that he loves her with his whole heart...and tells her that things are a little difficult here at home but it's not important because he wants the best for her and her mommy who loves her so much (bear in mind, he read my entries that during the affair briefly stated that daddy had a lot on his mind and that it might just be me and her, but we'd be okay and reassured her that she was loved and wanted by both of us.) Of course, he had to finish with "whatever happens..I will love you forever." So I was encouraged that he wrote, that he wants the best for us, but spooked by the whatever happens part.<P>And I know he called OW this afternoon...maybe telling her his newfound feelings for family????...who knows????<BR>But after that we made love, had a great dinner, he helped with the kitchen and then he went to work.<BR>Confused but encouraged. <BR>Who knows what tomorrow will bring?<P>I only know that I, along with all of you , have prayed for God to put Godly people in his path, and to draw him nearer to me, and to use this baby as an instrument through which to reach out to H. I have also prayed for God to change me...to let me be more open to new people and to be able to be still and hear what He wants me to do, and be brave enough to do it without questioning. I feel like all of that has been addressed this weekend.<P>I will continue to pray for us all throughout the night tonight, and to praise God for his unending blessings.<P>Kim

Kim,<BR>I am glad that you had such an encouraging weekend. It is hard to know what is in their heads because they don't even know from minute to minute.<BR>That is encouraging that he went into the babies room to write in a journal a note to her. And it sounds like you had some good time together.<BR>Kim, just keep praying and praising the Lord, and He will lead You. All things are possible in Jesus. <BR>

Kim, that is absolutely awesome! I am so thrilled for you. Print out SueB's post on praise and start praising!!! Your husband is almost back, I think. And, all the glory and honor to our God!! PTL! I am just so happy for you Kim.<P>Lord, thank you for hearing and answering our prayers. I praise Your holy name, Lord. The words "thank you" are not enough, but you know our hearts. Lord, I pray that You continue to bring this husband back to his family, and turn Kim's and her husband's hearts wholly towards You. Let them put You at the center of their marriage, and their lives. Thank You Father for laying it upon Kim's husband's heart to write such loving words in the baby book. Praise You Jesus, you are wonderful. Your never ceasing love is so awesome. Thank You for being right next to Kim helping her to endure this trial. I praise You Lord. In Jesus name I pray, AMEN