I am so down today, and I'm not even sure why. On the grand scale of things, we're doing so much better, but on the other hand...I just don't understand what is going on with the phone calls to OW.<P>Yesterday, H placed a call to OW in FL right before he wrote in the baby book about how it didn't matter that things were difficult at home, that he wanted the best for baby and me. This call happened BEFORE H and I made love, before the wonderul dinner, the compliments, the help...etc.<P>Then he didn't call me during his 10 minute break at work last night. He instead called me on his way home this a.m. offering to bring me breakfast..which he did. breakfast in bed with the man I love! I had asked him about had they been busy, since he didn't call me during break like he had been...he said he had to finish a car and only had 5 minutes of break left (which of course, I found out he used to place a call to her)<BR>Yet, unlike when the afffair was intense...albeit long distance (she in South Am..he here) he is not shutting me out but rather acting more like a husband. After breakfast, we both went back to sleep...and he was cuddly, reaching for me and caressing my arms, my feet, etc.<P>So what can possibly be going on here. He said when he told me about the affair that she often spoke of his needing to stay in his marriage, that she didn't want anymore trouble. Has anyone else gone through this weaning off process? (if that's what it is...i know they don't see one another, he sends her no $..he's broke...and he seems to be more committed to the home and our family. He has still not told me himself that she lost her baby. My brother seems to think he feels somewhat responsible for her...she most likely depressed and alone and her family not knowing she was pregnant to start with.) <P>I know I need to continue to pray, but it is so defeating to know he is still keeping in touch with her, eventhough we are doing so much better.<P>Kim

Update...and another answered prayer (though I am still very cnfused)<BR>When H woke yesterday, I took a chance and invite him to run errands with me...visiting grandma in the hospital, buying a baby gift, and eating lunch out. To my surprise he said yes. Further, befroe he would get out of bed, he bagan asking for lotioning and massaging (he's used it alot lately to get close) so I rubbed his shoulders, then his feet, then he gave me his hands....he's getting pretty creative about what else can he stick in front of me to massage!<P>Anyway, we had a great day. when he left to go to work, though, he took the cell phone...meaning of course, he's calling her. So I prayed all night that if he had to call her then for God to be sure and also put thoughts of me in his heart. At the time for his 10 minute break, H did call, right at the end when he had to go back, but he said he wanted to call to check on me. He then called back during his dinner break, very briefly. This a.m. he was more cuddly than ever in bed before we went to sleep. I did check the cell, and sure enough he called her during the 10 minute break. i don't understand what that is all about ...in that 10 minutes, he has to eat a sandwich, got to the bathroom, then he called both her and me. She can't be getting much from that one call a day!<BR>And best of all....he didn't call her any at all after the 10 minute break...only me.<P>Please help me to pray for continued distance between them.<BR>Kim