Refer to the announcement above for details<BR>(When and if it ever shows up ).<BR>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders<BR>Infidelity Forum<P><p>[This message has been edited by Tempest (edited November 29, 1999).]

Well, I think the announcement has disappeared into the Twilight Zone. I will post a duplicate of it here.<BR>----------<P>Since WhoDat made the Infidelity Forum hiccup so badly today that it lost my post on archiving, I will post it here.<P>As you know, the Infidelity Forum has been "malfunctioning" with relative frequency of late. Part of this may be because there are an enormous number of posts - well over 50,000. Since we have the capability of archiving, I am asking for suggestions for threads to archive.<P>When a thread is archived, it is stored in a "read-only" mode. You may read it, but you may no longer post responses to it or edit any of the posts you may have previously made to it. However, it will remain there indefinitely (unless/until the archives become too large).<P>Please post suggestions in this thread, so that I will be able to find them later.<P>Thank you for your help in making the Infidelity Forum run more smoothly.<P>------------------<BR>Tempest, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders<BR>Infidelity Forum<P>

Any threads that have gone for more than a month should be more than ready to archive.<P>R

Tempest,<P>As a point of clarification...<P>Those that are not archived (i.e. the threads we <B>do not</B> identify to you)... are they going to be deleted all together based on some schedule? (e.g. monthly)<P>Is the archiving of <B><I>most</I></B> older threads (e.g. older than 2 months or so) going to make the system that much faster?<P>How do you retrieve an "archived" thread?... Is there something different to be done?<BR>I understand we can't add content(replies)... but is there anything else we need to know about "archiving"?<P>Could we put something into our posts of new threads that would/could indicate to <B>DO</B> or <B>DON'T</B> archive?<P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited November 29, 1999).]

Bringing this up for further questions/comments.<P>Jim

Tempest<BR>This one is very special<BR> <A HREF="http://marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/003954.html" TARGET=_blank>http://marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/003954.html</A>

Tempest,<P>I like the idea of archiving anything that hasn't been posted on in one month.<P>Thanks for asking! <P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

The suggestion of the forum administrator, Steve Harley, was to archive threads that have been of particular value to many and delete others in order to get the Infidelity forum posts down to a more manageable number. We hope that this maintenance method will help make the forum run more smoothly and with fewer "glitches" such as the one I mention in my second post here. As for faster - I'm not certain of that. <P>The ability to archive threads is a new one, so all of the details have not been worked out at this time - I do not know when we may make a decision to simply "delete" older threads that have not been archived. At this point, I know of only one method to archive posts and that is by using the link at the bottom of each thread (only moderators and forum administrator may archive topics). This is time-consuming and awkward, so I would prefer at this time to archive threads based on individual suggestions as opposed to archiving anything older than 30 days. If I discover that there is a way to archive groups of topics, I will be happy to simply archive anything over a certain "age."<P>There is a drop-down list for the archives which can be found at the bottom of the main forums page, and you can find the archive link in the "Hop to" drop down box. At this time, the only forum that has an archive is the Infidelity forum. Highlight that archive and click "go". You will be taken to a page which is similar to the normal forum in appearance. Select and read threads as you like.<P>A suggestion for "continuing" a thread that is archived: copy the url of the archived post, then go to the regular forum and click on Post New Topic. Make your subject the same as the archived thread subject, and put the URL in the post as the first line. That way, you will have a link to the archived thread in your post. This is NOT a requirement, simply a suggestion.<P>At this time, I would prefer that members NOT attempt to identify their posts as "do" or "do not" archive. My suggestion to those of you who find a post valuable is to suggest it for archiving once it is out of "circulation."<P>I am not planning to begin deletion of threads any time soon - and I don't think that Steve is, either, however it is something to keep in mind, as it may become necessary to do.<P>wasstubborn, I have archived the post you suggested. NSR, I have archived most of the posts you suggested (with the exception of those that are still very current). WhoDat, I have archived the post you suggested also.<P>Please keep the feedback coming. Be patient when waiting for a reply as I don't get to read more than once a day, in the evening.<P>------------------<BR>Tempest, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders<BR>Infidelity Forum<P>

Tempest<BR>Here are a few success stories and other important threads that you might want to archive:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/004041.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/004041.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/006409.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/006409.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/004497.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/004497.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007077.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007077.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007637.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007637.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007033.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/007033.html</A> <BR>

Isn't suggesting which post to archive kind of difficult. I may read a post and then sometime later run into or find myslef in a position that the post would be helpful, but if I didn't suggest archiving it then it wouldn't be there. Also what is important to one may not be important to another and vice versa. Everyone thinks there posts are important or they wouldn't post them, just a thought.<P>I guess I'm in favor of the age archiving.<p>[This message has been edited by Paul Moyers (edited December 01, 1999).]

Wasstubborn:<BR>Your reference to Almost Happy really hit home with me. I can't wait till my wife has a chance to read it. I was the non-communicator that caused all of our problems and now I'm bubbling over. I can't quit trying to let her know how I feel about her and us. I don't want to settle for what could have been had this horrible thing had not ruined our marriage as we knew it. I don't want to settle for simply forgetting this occured and we should move on either. Rather, I want to make something wonderful out of this for the pain, anguish, and loss (as I have stated in earlier posts "A part of me died") we have suffered together. Sure, we'll never forget what has happened but for some unknown reason God has worked a miracle for us. We have reaffirmed our love for each other and feel a sense of being reborn. As Almost Happy stated "My wife knows what I mean when I ask for a hug". No need to say anything else.<P>"It's the little things that mean so much!"

Paul, as I explained above, it is currently not possible to archive by date - only by individual thread. It takes anywhere from 1-3 minutes to archive one thread. If I were to try to archive the oldest 1/4 of all the posts here, assuming the shortest time period of minutes, it would take me 9 full days working 24 hours a day.<P>I hope that puts into perspective the task that is facing us <P>------------------<BR>Tempest, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders<BR>Infidelity Forum<P>