I was lurking on this forum last week, and I saw subject titles like "Chapter 3, His Finances". Little did I know it was referring to the book my dearest friend gave me in April. Wish I'd cracked it open back then!.<P>So, having just read the introduction and first chapter today, I'm finding my attitude to be VERY resistant to praying for my H, and the anger levels inching up as I read further. I didn't know I had it so bad. Boy, did Stormie nail my attitude to the wall! So, now that I understand why I'm feeling so "stuck" with our progress, I'm happy join you all in this forum, and look forward to discusing the book with all of you ahead of me. I think I'm going to reread the intro and Ch. 1 again Sunday and then spend Monday fasting, journalling and praying, while my H is gone on a business trip in Jakarta, where he had his affair.<P>I recognize "The Bondage Breaker" because I also own that one. What are the other books you're all reading?<BR>JP

Hi JP,<BR>Welcome! Yes, we have learned and are learning much from POPW and all other pieces of knowledge God provides for us. Moslty right now, we are putting a lot of energy into learning boundaries from the Boundaries in Marriage book by Townsend and Cloud. Please read that thread. It coincides with Stormi's chapter 1 of His Wife in that first of all we need to change ourselves or take the log out of our own eye before we can take the splinter out of anyone else. We are learning that we have the responsibility to place boundaries on our feelings so that we do not respond in sin. I have read some of your other posts and had hoped that some day you would come down to this forum. I am glad you are here.

Hi JP, glad to have you join us. POPW has been a life (well marriage) saver for me. I keep going back to Chapter 1, because I have a lot of "log" to get rid of these days. As SueB said, we've been working on POPW using the Study Guide and also Boundaries in Marriage. It's some great reading and I have enjoyed it all so much.<P>We have already gone all the way through POPW a chapter at a time, so you may want to go back through some of the old posts. Don't worry about getting the Study Guide if you don't have it, we post the whole question each time anyway. <P>I can sure understand those feelings about not wanting to pray for your husband. There are days I just want to throw my books away and say "forget it". At those times, I know I have to go get on my knees and ask the Lord to refill me with his joy and peace, and love my husband through me. It is so very hard sometimes!!!<P>God bless you, and welcome!

JP,<BR>I don't post regularly here anymore, but I was one of the two ladies (Lor is the other) who got this forum started.<P>Another GREAT workbook is the "Choosing to Forgive" workbook by Les Carter and Frank Minirth. <P>It took me a few months to really process everything in it, but it helped me recover from my h's affair, including the issue of hating the OW (still a struggle, but making progress).<P>we are doing well together, he says he loves me...I even got roses this month for no reason other than he saw them and thought of me!<P>enjoy this forum and these great ladies...<P>liz smith/pearl of great price/lizpearl

Lizzie,<P>I was lurking today and saw your post. Have been wondering how you are doing. Glad to see the good report.<P>You and Lor helped me so much last summer. Yes, it has been a year since I was first posted on the MB forum. I thank God for this forum especially and all the praying ladies who have helped me so much.<P>There are success stories and even though it takes time God does take us all beyond the hurt to praise.<P>I do miss the fellowship on this forum. Sounds funny but I have made real friendships here. Thanks again Lizzie!<P>Blessings, Taj

Taj, <P>SO great to hear from you!<P>I lurk once in a while and post if someone needs a kind word. God is working in our relationship, and I am hopeful that the day will come when my h. professes faith again.<P>So glad you are well, to. Did you see Lostva's post on General? If not, you should ALL read it. Very encouraging.<P>love to my dear sisters,<P>lizzie

Lizzie and Taj, it is <B>sooooo</B> good to see your posts! I have missed you both very much. Your testimonies of restoration are so encouraging to those of us still waiting for the miracle. Thank you for being here lifting us up. <P>God bless,<P>AW