This year has been the worst. Ive never been in trouble before. I have been unhappy in my marriage for many years. I've been married for thirteen years and have two children.<P>This year I became very dissatisfied, I am now involved with a married man that belongs to the same church. We know that what we are doing is wrong. I have repented, however I was so happy with the EMA, he made me so happy and still wants to. <P>I really do love him but I do want to do God's Will. I am very scared. OM is pushing for this relationship, and I do find myself going back and forth between doing the right thing and stayin with the relationship.<P>Mind you...he does mean almost everything to me. I have become very dependent on him. We have stated that we will work through this together, we will help eachother because we are that much of a friend to eachother.<P>What is happening to me? please just say a prayer.

qu78,<BR>You say you have been unhappy for many years. I do not know the history of your relationship, but this is not in any way sanctioned by God. This is satan tempting you. God'd word says flee the devil and He will depart from you. satan is making this man very attractive and appealing, the om is filling spaces that no one else has for a while, but Your Lord, is wanting to fill those spaces inside You with Himself. He is the Way, and the Truth. If You know this is wrong, that is the Holy Spirit trying to tell you to run as fast as you can into Your Savior's arms. It will be hard at firs to resis the temptation, but just like an itch, if you don't scratch it, it stops itching soon and then goes away. You can not do this by yourself. See a pastor at your church, seek the Lord with all your heart. Cry out to Him and ask Him to do this in you. Ask Him to take all desire for this other mn away, ands ask Him to fill you with Himself. He is waiting for you. It sounds like you are still able to see some truth and discern that this is not the best route to take. It will not solve the problems with your marriage, but it will complicate your life beyond belief. It will feel good for a while, but then you will sink into a pit and feel like you can never get out. <BR>Call to God, He never sleeps or slumbers. He is waiting for You to call to HIm. "Come to me, and I will come to you. James 4:8.<BR>qu78, move away from this om and address the problems in your marriage first with your husband and a counselor. This om can not really respect you if he pressures you for a relationship, when he too knows it is wrong.<BR>I will be praying for you.<P>Father,<BR>I ask that you send your ministering angels to surround qu78 and protect her from satan, that coming in the disguise of pleasure and good feelings seeks to rob her of her integrity and relationship with You. Lord bring a counselor or pastor into the picture that can help her through this, to resist this great temptation and save herself a multitude of heartaches. Lord, You only want Your best for us. But to truly experience Your best we must live by Your words. Lord, send Your Spirit to touch this woman's heart showing her the truth of her situation and I pray she will choose Your best over what seems good.<BR>In Jesus name, Amen.

When the emotional needs haven't been met, one does find himself in vulnerable situations and the temptation is strong to wander. But my sister, as you have said, you know this is wrong and not God's plan for your life. As kind as this man has been to you, if he is pushing you to continue to sin, then he does not have God's heart either. God can put your marriage back together in a far better way than it has been for you. Your children deserve that opportunity to be raised by the same Mom and Dad, to have a living example of what it means to be committed for better, for worse, through think and thin. I am glad that you have written to us and confessed to this sin and have repented before the Lord. Study with us, grow with us and become that woman that God would have you become.<P>Father God surround qu78 with your Love this day, let her feel your presence in a way that she has never felt before. Let her see your hand and the hope we have in You. Be her strength and fortress when this OM pushes her to go against you, help her to have firm no's, to continue to walk away from sin, rebuking it and watching as evil flees. Father, clear the mind of her husband and take the cobwebs away from his eyes that he might see how lazy the two of them have become in preserving their marriage and cherishing it for all time. Renew their love for one another, reminding them each of the things that they fell in love with 13 years ago.<P>Father please give qu78 the boldness and courage to go to her pastor with this issue that she may have support and accountability during this battle. We ask these things in your holy name, Amen.

I echo Sue & Hw. You've just been sifted like wheat. Satan has come against you with a temptation that is so sweet it seems perfect for you.<P>You say you are "happy" with this man, do you realize that statistics show that there is only a 5% chance if you would divorce & marry him that the two of you would not divorce as well?<P>The sad thing is that we tend to pick the same type of person over and over...take a deep look at this man, how similar is he to your H when your marital relationship was new?<P>Your marriage is in trouble, but if you were a Christian at the time, it was not a mistake. God didn't have his eyes closed the day you got married. Your H is the perfect person to perfect you and you are perfect for your H. It isn't a smooth path or a "given". You both have to work to make it so. <P>God also did not send you and the OM into each other's lives. God does not break up marriages or families.<P>I know exactly the temptation you are in. The best thing for me was to simply choose my H and gut out the pain of losing someone who had become my best friend, trusting in God to show me the path to healing my marriage with my H who had an affair & had left me. Talk about an unhappy marriage for the last couple of years!<P>You can't wish to follow God's will & live with sin--it will tear your life, your H's life, & your children's lives apart. Ditto for the OM's family.<P>The image that worked for me was Abraham & Issac, when God says Abraham must sacrifice his beloved & promised son. Abraham puts that boy on the altar & raises the knife. He follows God's will even though his heart is breaking. And the memory of Abraham is blessed for ever and ever and God keeps each promise He made Abraham.<P>