I have a prayer to post...............<BR>Dear God, In Jesus name,<BR> Tonight h and I are going out to talk.<BR>Last night on the the phone he said we needed to start talking about serious stuff, he was not happy with our arrangement. It was late when he got home and he had been drinking<BR>thank you for the wisdom and strenth to suggest waiting until tonight, and thank you he so quickly agreed, oh God, I need to really share feelings with him, and I am asking for your help, please open my mouth and let the words that need to be said flow.<BR>with your timing...........and prepare his mind to accept and understand my mixed up words<BR>I don't know what those are, only that I can't continue to just not say anything. oh, God I want to tell him I do not want to separate, and I will not stop him, but I will not help him. I want to tell him that I am very hurt by all of this, but that I am getting stronger everyday and I will be ok. I am letting go even though I don't want to.<BR>I think I should tell him I went to Alonan meetings and believe his drinking is affecting me and the children in negative ways. Lord, I am begging you you to open his eyes, and see the family that loves him and let him reach out to you, and others, like doctors, counslers that can help him. I beg you to take the blinders of denial off and show him your face. He is so confused, and depressed. Please help him........please help me.........please help us Amen

I pray for you carol14 to be strong and wise in your discussion tonight. May the Lord soften both of your hearts to allow the love between you that pleases Him. IJN Amen<P>Carol14, I think I've made progress with my H since finding this forum. I've discovered that only certain ways of delivering my messages will get through to my H. Raising the pitch or volume of my voice sends him running. Keeping a clamp on my thoughts is essential. Try to focus on the present. Our problems started in a serious way three years ago, and in a way I feel like those three years have just gone down the tubes. So many mistakes along the way. I used to spend a lot of time blaming my H. It's too easy to beat him over the head with "why did you do this" or "why didn't you do that." That will get you nowhere. I have a hard time getting my H to say what he wants for dinner for crying out loud. Just think of all the other things in his mind that he is unwilling or uncomfortable in telling me. Listen, listen, listen and make sure that he knows you have heard him. You can journey toward a marriage that is truly a blessing when the two of you can feel safe in confiding in each other. You'll need strength to accomplish that. I know I do!

Father God, our precious and mighty Lord, maker and protector of all, we praise you for allowing us to be reconciled to You, we thank for the gift of the cross that bridged the gap between us and you. Father, you initiated that plan so long ago, knowing we were incapable of bridging anything. We thank you for your mercy and your grace, for your precepts and your wonderous love. <P>Father, as we increase our efforts to break down barriers and truly seek your face, we ask you to go before and behind Carole and her husband to bridge the walls of discord with your love. Let them truly hear and listen to one another, heart to heart, without accusation. Let their words be honorable ones and let this day be the beginning of restoration as You desire. Pour your confidence over Carole as she shares with her husband, Guard her mouth and let Your Words flow from her lips. Let her heart be filled with love for her husband in the same way that you love her. Let her see him as lost as we were lost until You reclaimed us. Let your truth reign tonight and let no evil come near this couple. We give you the praise and glory! IJN, Amen.

So how did it go last night?