I keep reading about this plan A and plan B.<P>What exactly is it, I would like to try all of the help I can get by applying it to my life.<P>I think that in order for me to win the battle that I am in is not to focus on my H or the so called other man. But to re-focus on Christ.<P>I'm starting to realize that Christ is the only true friend that I have. I am not satisfied in my marriage, I am not saisfied or fully happy in an affair, because I simply cannot keep up the deceitfulness and I'm often in a state of lonliness.<P>Therefore I know that I need to focus on the Almighty.<P>There is one wish that I have and that is to find true friends amongst to women in my church, but everyone seems so cold-hearted. I am often alone, I walk alone, it seems as if no one wants to just open up to me as a friend.<P>I do not want to appear needy. But how do I change this.

Click on these links qu<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html</A> <BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html</A> <p>[This message has been edited by SueB (edited September 07, 2000).]

Print out these pages and the corresponding links so that your husband has an idea of the battle ahead of the two of you and why it is essential that there be a separation between you and OM. Depending on your church, I would suspect that the two of you are not the ones who would need to leave the body, but who knows what God has planned for the two of you. This is where your husband's leadership would have to take hold, determining what is best for his wife and family.