Could you all please pray for me? I am not one to ask for help very often, but I am a strong believer in the fact that "when two or more agree......"<P> I feel that God has led me here. I am in a situation that seems to get more "quicksandy" every day. I have just learned that my H may have left his job under very different circumstances than he told me! At this point, it is gossip, but I plan to go directly to his old boss to find the truth. Before I do that, I need to be sure that God wants me to do this. I have believed so much in truthfulness, and, until recently would have defended my husbands high moral standards to anyone. But now, it seems that more and more layers are being peeled away in my picture of my H. I know that I put him up on a pedestal, and that now the enemy is using that against me. He always used to say that he couldn't imagine a man doing anything to put his family at risk. And now, I am beginning to find information that I never would have imagined could be true! I just need prayer for discernment. Please, God, show me what to do. H is out of town for 2 days, should I get in contact with his old boss, whom I know will tell me the truth? Or should I wait to ask my H? So far, the only times he has told the truth has been when confronted with indisputable evidence. I really hate to involve anyone else in this, but I HAVE to know the truth. Did he lose his job because of "inappropriate relations" with this OW? <P> I love the Lord above all else. I will not go against his will if it is known to me. At this point, it seems that He is trying to gently show me the truth. What should I do?<P> I feel so safe here. I thank God for showing me that you exist. That there are people out there that really DO want to share His love with even someone who has been as blind as I have.<P> Thankyou, SM

Or, assume it is true, and act accordingly in the way that will best save his soul, and perhaps your marriage, too.<P>Dear Father, Thank you for bring SimplyMe to us this day. We praise thee for thy infinite love and compassion on us, thy struggling children. <P>Please bless SimplyMe with wisdom and the feeling of peace as she makes the right decision here at a crossroads of life. Bless her that when she contemplates the best choice that she will be filled with peace and love, but that when she contemplates the choice thou wouldst not have her choose, let her heart remain in confusion. Whichever road she chooses, or is brought before her, please go with her and bring her comfort and guidance.<P>In Jesus' name, Amen.<P>------------------<BR>A true friend is one who not only is willing to love us the way we are, but is able to leave us better than he found us.

Father, I pray in agreement with these sisters that Your will prevail in this situation, that the truth be made known through your light, darkness be fully exposed. Father, give her clear insight into this situation and a confidence about what to do and the courage to do nothing but love her husband if she does not receive your confidence. Father give her the courage to love her husband as you love her.IJN, Amen.

Karenna and Sue B,<P> Thankyou so much for your prayers. I will be very careful to be sure that it is the right thing to do before I make a move. I have a really strong aversion to gossip. I have seen it ruin many lives, and, as you can imagine, an even stronger aversion to being the object of gossip! I will seek God's wisdom in this situation, and take the time to wait for His answer instead of acting on my own counsel.<P> Your prayers have given me the peace to stop and listen before I jump. You have saved me a great deal of confusion, because H's old boss is a very strong Christian and a leader in our church, as well as my children's leader in their activities. I would be very embarassed and ashamed if I were to call him before I waited to hear God's voice. Thankyou! SM

Lord,<BR>I pray for simplyme. Lead her in Your light. Remind her what is said can be used by satan against her and her marriage and husband. Lord, give her discernment and a strong listening ear for your will in her life and circumstances. Remind her that circumstances call out to our souls to seek the Lord, just to be with Him. Lord, work in her h to be truthfl to her no matter what, and that she will receive the truth in love and see it through Your eyes. Lord, build this woman's love, faith and trust in You. In Jesus name, Amen

Well, I'm back. After all of your prayers, I waited until I felt the Lord leading me to call a trusted, Christian friend that used to work with my H. He told me that there was a lot of gossip about H and OW at the office, but nobody actually had any proof. The only issue that really came up was that his cell phone bill was riduculously high each month, and the company was paying the bill. When asked about it, he said that he had let OW borrow his phone, and thought that would take care of it. There was a lot of suspicion at work, and he was lop-sided in his judgement on a lot of things.<P> This is a man who has always been a good judge of character, always avoided any situation that was not just right, and when he did mess up, was always the first to admit it, and take responsibility. <P> What has happened to this man I married? His bad judgement has been amazing. Friends have seen him hiding behind a tree so that he could talk on his secret phone. I just don't understand! He worked for almost 20 years to get to the place he was in the business field, and may have blown that, is threatening the foundation of our whole family, and just doesn't seem to get it! I feel some anger at him for his behavior, but more than that, I just want him back. The person I've known for over 20 years, not this fool that acts like an adolescent where OW is concerned. Maybe his love for her is just so strong that he finds ways to BE who she wants him to be. I just don't know! <P> I am in one of my moments of disbelief, I guess. For the most part, I do just fine, it's just that once in a while it all just hits me hard. Like when I get up in the morning, and forget about it for just a moment, and then it all comes flooding back. I want to be past this waiting period, and on into the rebuilding. I have always been very patient, but this seems to be dragging on too long. Please pray for me. I need guidance moment by moment. I want to say the one thing that will bring him back from the brink. I just don't know what that is! <P> Help me, Lord to listen to your words, and not act on my anger. As much as the anger reaction is against my nature, I seem to be getting to a point where I need to vent. I don't want to do that. I've never lost control of my temper before, and I'm not sure that it would be constructive, those things usually aren't! I know, Lord, that You know what I should do, that You know the pathway I should take. Show me, please! IJN Amen

simplyme,<BR>I too have felt like you. I sometimes sit back and cannot believe it. They are indeed in adolescence. The rapture of adolescent love. They are totally blind and can only think of it. The feelings are so strong, intoxicating actually, that it can be compared to an addiction. As they get into it, they don't see any clear way out at some point. What good judgement they had goes out the door. It is amazing. <P>My h can't see how the kids have been hurt. He generously takes care of us, and then complains that the kids think he is only for money. Well, that is the best of what he has given over the last year.<P>My h can't see beyond his feelings. It doesn't matter how the rest of us feel. He does feel guilty; feels bad because he doesn't want to hurt us. But that feeling is more about the way it makes him feel rather than the fact it is hurting us. Does that make sense?<P>I spent too long thinking I could control it or talk him out of it. God has finally gotten me to the point that I realize He is the only one who can do anything about it. I am working on myself and my relationship with God and letting God work on my h. <P>It is hard waiting and I too have moments of frustration about how long it has gone on. However, God has allowed this, He works all things for good, and He clearly said to me "Put Him in the middle of my marriage." I am standing on His promises. That really is all I can do.<P>Praying and praising God are great outlets for me. When I feel that frustration or panic that it will never end, if I can begin praising God, then the feelings subside and I can be at peace again. It isn't easy. This board has really been such a support for me. The women here pray and offer good positive feedback. We have looked at several topics that help us each grow. I don't know what I would do without it. Besides God it is my only support. <P>But then God has really been sending the message "aren't I enough?" I have had to humble myself and learn what it means to really depend on God. It has really been a growing experience. Whether my h comes home or not, I know I will truly be a better person for this trial.<P>I pray simplyme that you find your outlet to vent in God. I have spent hours ranting in my head, and then given it over to God. It has been so beneficial, and hasn't been destructive on the relationship. Come here and vent when you need to. <P>Father,<BR>I lift up simplyme to You. Lord give her comfort and rest in You. Be her tower of refuge and strength. Give her wisdom to know when and what to say. Give her support to love her husband while she waits for you to work in her h. Lord, creat a thirst in her to seek You. Increase her faith and hope in You. Lord bring her h out of the fog, out of darkness and into Your light. Lord, bring him to Jesus and then bring him home to his wife and family. Lord work all things for good in this families life. Let the Holy Spirit settle si mply's heart to know that You are in control. In Jesus name, Amen.