I have been working this question over and over and over and over in my mind for the past few years and have not come up with an answer that I can really hold on to. I would like to hear what you ladies have to say on this subject PLEASE!!!<BR>Who am I REALLY putting my trust in, my security in? Is it my lying cheating husband, or me, or God?<BR>I will stick out this marriage no matter, is trusting who?<BR>I will seperate and pray for my H, is trusting who?<BR>who do i need to be in control, is it me deciding how my life will be,"I will be married, financially secure, Harriet and Ozzie family. I will not allow someone to trample me, one of God's precious daughters, do I trust him enough to let go of that dream I had for my life, to live in the light of the truth?????<BR>Do you get what I am saying, The heart is deceitfull above all else... I do not trust my heart....Maybe I should, maybe not trusting my heart is not trusting what God has provided me with.??

I think I understand what you are saying. I have been a Christian for many years, and for many years have prayed for my husband and marriage. The more I tried to take control of the situation and try to make things work the way I wanted them to, the worse it got. Things did not start to get better until I gave the reins to God. Trust Him. If you aren't sure about what you're feeling in your heart, test it with the Word of God. If it goes against scripture, its not of God and will most likely lead you to more pain and heartache.<P>It is really, really, REALLY hard to take the first step in faith and trust the Lord to handle everything. <P>Some verses that have rung true for me lately are:<P>"Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass" (Ps37:5) <P>"Blessed is the man that maketh the Lord his trust" (Ps40:4) <P>"Trust ye in the Lord forever; for in the Lord Jehovah is everlasting strength" (Isa 26:4)<P>I have recently had to make a lifechanging decision. After praying a lot and thinking and thinking about it, I started comparing the choices I had to the Word, and came up with the choice that I had to be obedient to God's word. I now have peace about this decision, and I know without a doubt that the Lord is caring for me. There is no peace until you trust in Him.<P>blessings,<BR>AW<BR>

lizam,<P>I'm not sure I completely follow your question, but the only one to trust and put Your faith in is God. And I think we have to let go of our perceptions and dreams for our lives and if we can wait for God's then we are waiting for the best.<P>God wants us to seek Him with all our hearts and to hold on to His truth and love. He wants us to turn to Him for all our needs and our security and our self-worth. He wants to give us His plans and dreams for our lives. His plans are greater than anything we can even imagine. His dreams are greater for us than we can ever dream. But we have a tendency to hold onto what we have decided is best for us and to hold on to our dreams.<P>God knows us and what we are capable of and He knows what we are capable of achieving, but we have to be open to His dreams for us. But since He doesn't always reveal those to us up front we have a hard time understanding that there could be abything better then we think we wan because that is all we know, until we know Jesus. Then as we grow and get to know and trust Him, we see that there are greater things than we can see.<P>It is hard though when what we think we want such as our husbands, we also know is God's will, in that He hates divorce. It is hard when what we want is felt with our emotions. It is hard when there is nothing to do while we wait for Him to work it all out. That is nothing to do but to seek Him. We can't fix our marriages and we cannot control our h's, but we can seek Him and He can work in our h's hearts and heal our marriages.<P>I'm not sure this is what you are looking for?

My status is that 2 weeks ago I forced my H to move out.<BR>He is unhappy, and anxious about this and wants to move home Soon.<BR>It has been 4 1/2 years since first dday, and since that time have been told that there had been other one night stands, while we were dating and early on in the marriage too. Then one more emotional, sexual affair since that time.<BR>Now this is the first time in 4 1/2 years I am happy, and it puzzels me, is God giving me this peace, am I trusting him to take care of me, and have finally quit hanging onto a hurtful relationship as my security.<BR>Or do I now feel at peace, because satan is no longer tormenting me with suspicions, jealousy, hoplesness, selfishnes, and yes self doubt

Dear Lizam,<P>I believe that for your marriage to work out, God has to be central in your lives. All the issues that come with adultery have to be resolved and that involves your husband's repentance and fruits of repentance too. Is your H also relying on God for that trust to let God's will be done in his life?<P><BR>Putting your trust in Jesus and waiting on God's word, learning to recognise God's voice as a sheep recognise its shephard will give you the peace.<P>God bless you<BR>weep