Please keep praying for my H. In my current state, I am unable to handle my H's abuse. I am tired. He is cycling through the phase where he is angry, abusive, and cruel. He has D and told me last night that I had to make my son (20 and working college student) leave or I would not see my D until after the holidays. He said he would never give her up and the only option was for me to do as he says (he wants to have our family include only he, D, and me and now says he will move over here and be a stay-at-home Dad). I have the option of seeking legal custody (custody has not been determined), but my heart does not lean in that direction and it would be difficult because of the venue issues (we are in different states). I want God's answer, it is the only answer. I realize that threats and cruelty are not the way this reconicilation should transpire and that his need to control is prompting his ultimatums. I do not want to subject myself to angry, abusive, controlling behavior. I have made my way through it in the past because I realize he is ill. This latest episode was brought on by my son using the phone to call girlfriend after I went to bed, last night. He was on the phone for 1.5 hours and ignored H calling in. H was mad....I was unhappy, but my response was to tell son that he needed to either get his own phone line or limit his calls to 10 minutes if using my phone. H said son had to go and now or he would come over and beat my son and throw him out. As a Mother, I can not allow that to happen. Son is working hard and going to school, but he does not make enough to maintain a place of his own(he helps me out financially). Please pray for us, I have no answer for my H (or perhaps I am afraid to say anything in his current state). In a week or two, his mood will change given no further provocation. I worry for my D, she wants to have both of us together. I just want to do what is right in this situation, to do what God can use to his glory. God is beginning to return my strength, but last night returned me to a shower of tears and sorrow and I realized how weak I am. I can only say that my day to day existence has been because God is with me....I just have no strength on my own. I am at the end of my rope and praying that God will make my life whole again. I am sorry to post here,(I realize it is a bible study) but your support and prayers have been so very helpful through all of this. I am trusting in God. I have been recalling the many times that he has been there, how he always answers wonderously and in the perfect time. I know I have failed to please our Father in so many many ways. I want to change, I want to live righteousness and yet I know that works are not the answer to his love. Thank you all for your prayers.......

Father, we thank You that You have shown yourself powerful on our behalf on so many occasions. We acknowledge that although we may not see You hand of grace in every area we know none the less that you are at work and active. We especially now ask that You would bring Your peace and calm to this sister's family. She is tired Lord, she needs to sence Your presence, we beseech You to enter into these circumstances of abuse and anger and bring and end. Replace them with love and understanding. Give Onedayatatime an extra measure of compassion for the waywardness of her spouse, may she be able to see him with Your eyes of mercy. Protect this family from further deterioration, may they know wholeness in You. God, we are helpless without You, You alone can make the difference and this we ask for Your sake and in Jesus Precious Name, may the world be witness to a miracle in this family. Amen<P>------------------<BR>"Perfect love casts out fear" I John 4:18

oneday,<BR>I wanted to respond the first time I read your post. I didn't know what to say. I still don't know what to say after reading it five times. Please know that I think about you and pray that you find the wisdom to know the right thing to do and strength to do it.

Dear Onedayatatime,<P>I tried to open this thread a couple of times before but couldn't get to it.<P>I hope you can commit your H to God and let God do His will in your H's life. Prayers and fasting can help and third party intercessions do wonders as well. You can get the books by Derek Prince, Stormie Omartian and Max Lucado to get insights on Prayer and Fasting, Power of A Praying Wife, Power of A Praying Parent, In the Eye of a Storm, etc..<P>Life is tough as it is without adultery and abuse. Pray and wait on God for His answers, and learn to hear God's voice and know and recognise the voice of the shephard. It is often the best I can do because things often seem bleak when the trust and unconditional love and commitment are destroyed.<P>God bless you<BR>take care<BR>weep