Up and down, back and forth....<BR>I feel like a yoyo,<BR>is he playing games or just totally not see what he is doing?<BR>I am tired of trying to figure it out.<BR>Please pray that God gives me wisdome and that i don't play his game if that is indeed what he is doing.<BR>I am slowly getting stronger, standing up for myself. setting boundries, this is hard almost 10 years into the relationship. but last week i finally did it. I stood up to him and confronted him about taking money from our second account without my knowledge.(which has caused financial problems.) so far he has respected my stand and he has left it alone...time will tell,it's only been a week. this is something new to me, i have never stood up to him before, I don't think that he knew what to do or think, he just sat their and stared at me. So please pray for God's wisdom to work in me and that each step i take in my breaking free of the bondage i have been in is of Him and not something that will hurt my marriage. I think this new found freedome is a step i should have taken long ago, but i have been to scared to stand up. Well...I am tired of being scared all the time and tired of walking on egg shells to keep him happy. so for now i have decided to put me first and not him.I need to take care of me. and do things i enjoy, i just need the wisdom and strength to do what is right in God's eyes rather than my own.<BR>thanks and God bless<P> <P><P>------------------<BR>Irene

Irene, <P>sounds like you are setting some healthy boundaries. This is really hard, I know.<P>I am currently getting practice with a =young women who is living with me. I have come to realize that she wants a mother in every relationship she has with women. I don't think this is conscious. She has no respect for the fact that I have responsibilities in many areas. She insinuates by what she says that I am not loving her adequately, and that I have time to take friends calls or do things with my own daughters. So I tell her I am going to bed when she wants to engage me in a conversation 'to encourage me.' <P>I also have realized that she can't see things from other's point of view easily. So I just need to draw my boundaries and keep them, she has none. This has been a good lesson for me. My biggest challenge is not becoming resentful of her, because she is over bearing.<P>I think that this is a lesson meant for both of us from God.<P>Thanks for starting the prayer requests. You know I did it earlier and then my computer dies, so I guess it never got posted. I am going to pray anyways herre even though there are not a lot of requests.<P>hw