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Dear Skye,<P> Standing is so hard,isnt it?I think my husband was lonely for years,for other reasons,mainly because I pursued another God,my career and education.Now that I have lost my H ,I dont even want my career.What does it mean,when you dont have your family.<BR> I have not followed Erin Theile to the letter,because I am stubborn and scared.Have not been able to fire attorney.<BR> But it seems to me that you hAve done everythind to reconcile your mistake of no contact.<BR> His 11 Questions seem to me to be testing the waters.Are you married? ,he asked. <BR> I can not explain his no contact for 6 months,only that God must have to work on him some more before your marriage is restored.<BR> I will pray that uour stand ends quickly,and that your H will contact you.<BR> Skye tell me the remove, blot out, and replace prayer please. Betrayed <BR>

Skye,<P>I can not answer your question, only God has the answer, but I know in my situation He has told me to 'be quiet and wait." That is the hardest to do. I won't go into all the details, but my h moved out a year ago last Sept. He has known the ow for almost 6 years at this point. Anyhow last spring we began dating again and we're moving nicely along when the ow did some manipulation and he decided that we should not see each other. <P>Anyhow I don't know why God let us date for a while and then as it seemed like there was some movement He took it away, But I do know at that point He clearly said 'be quiet say no more' So that is what I have been doing ever since.<P>Since that time God has drawn me closer to Him to seek Him just for the relationship with HIm. It is hard sometimes becase I still want my marriage, and sometimes I feel like I have given it away to the ow. But I know in my heart that God is greater than all that and no matter what she does it cannot thwart God's plan.<P>So I have been working on my relationship with our Lord and progressing on really surrendering the marriage to the point of accepting that He may not give it back.<P>I do believe God will give back my marriage, but I also believe He wants me to love Him that I would totally lose it for HIm.<P>Sometimes He asks us to give up our best. He wants us to be totally devoted to HIm. I know that in the process of trying to save my marriage I made it into an idol. God will have no idols before Him.<P>I also know that God will only return my dh when He has us both where He wants us to be. God would not return my h while there was any chance that he would return to the ow.<P>I have found the book by Stormie OMartin, "Just enough Light for the Step I'm on to be so ebcouraging."<P>I know I still desire for my h to be returned and I believe in God's time He will return Him. But I also have to know that if it never happens He has a purpose for my life and will turn it all for His good, His use for His glkory, as it should be.<P>I don't want it back unless God returns it. <P>So as to what the Lord is telling you, I can't say. But I can assure you that He is calling you to seek HIm with all your heart because you want relationship with HIm. He loves you and He knows how He will bring it all about.<P>Trust the Lord and seek Him, that is what He calls us to do. He asks us to give Him all our hopes, dreams and desires and that we believe and trust in Him for it all.<P>I too feel like I have taken the long route, but I am thankful that God never gives up on me. He is faithful and therefore I can not give up of God or my h. Jesus has walked every step with me these last 6 years!! He has taken my pain and my strongholds and made many changes in me. He is still at work and I know there is a lot of work yet to be done. But He is faithful and will finish what He has begun.<P>He will do the same in you , your h and your marriage.<P>Father I lift up all marriages and all women who post here. Lord change us, our hearts our desires and hopes to reflect Your dreams, desires and hopes for us. Lord let us surrender each day to You all of ourselves. Lord heal our wounds and heal our h's. Lord I pray this day that those h that do not know Jesus that they will come into life in Jesus this day. Lord they need You more than they know or can ask. Lord so we stand in the gap pleading mercy, grace and forgiveness because of Your great love toward us. Lord we can do nothing, but in You we can do all things because You can do all things. Lord we thank You and praise You for Your great plans./ Lord we can only come to You because of what Jesus did for us on the cross. Thank You. <P>Skye keep seeking the Lord and praying and waiting. God is working even when we don't see it.<P>

xxx

<small>[ June 02, 2004, 01:54 AM: Message edited by: skye ]</small>