I'm new to this forum though I've been reading this site sometime ago. It is difficult to share the whole story of my marriage but to make it shortly my husband has been the last three months in Europe and he is coming back in a week, we always had problems concerning objectives in life and according to me, minor things. He has just told me he wants to separate for a while because he will not feel good under the same roof and that I should leave the house (his) and return to my mother's. Everything was going ok, conversations by email were improving but a stupid conversation (I told him he hadnt tell me about a trip to Spain) broke everything.<BR>I have been praying and reading the Bible all the time but now I'm so desperate, I told him I cannot agree with leaving the house because I do not think it will be better fo us.<BR>Should I accept? should I maintain my position no matter how difficult and sad the situation will be?<BR>PLease pray for me..and if you have a moment I really need some words of support..<P>lenchen

lenchen,<P>This is such a difficult time for you, I'm sure. I have to agree with you that separation doesn't usually facilitate the reconcilliation process. With specific goals and a committment on both parties to work on specific things as well as continuing conjoint counseling, sometimes a separation can be helpful. But is doesn't usually work that way.<P>It sure doesn't sound like you said anything too threatening, but of course I do not know all the details. Could it be he is just looking for an excuse? <P>The best advice I can give you is to continue your time with God and with God work on things in your own life. What are some of your issues that God would like to work through with you? Get involved in prayer groups or Bible study so that you have the fellowship of like minded women. There are other on line groups such as rejoice ministries, that will send encouraging messages to you daily in support of this difficult time in your marriage.<P>Sometimes it takes time for God to accomplish all He wants with us and our spouse, so work on yourself and cultivate a closer relationship with Jesus. Oh, and never stop praying for your h. There comes a time when words no longer do any good, but prayer always does and that is sometimes all we are left with. This usually means that God had to get us out of the way in order to have the opportunity to work in your h's life. <P>As this forum is named, get a copy of Stormie OMartin's, "The Power of a Praying Wife." It helps you to pray in all areas of your h's life, as well as help you to pray for yourself.<P>Lord, <P>watch over lenchen and give her comfort tonight. Help her to know that You are right beside her and that you are answering her prayers even if she doesn't see any evidence. Lord work in her h's heart to soften his heart toward her. Lord, lead her into a deeper relationship with You. Give her wonderful blessings and stir her heart to see You in new ways through this trial. Lord, trials are Your way of calling us into deeper relationship- wioth You. I pray that lenchen will answer that call. In Jesus name, Amen.

Dear hw:<P>I just wanted to say how grateful I am for your reply. You almost got the words out of my mouth in your prayer. I hope God will really work through our lives...<BR>I will be posting soon and God bless you. <P>lenchen<BR>