it has now going on 3 weeks since he moved out. a very slow, long 3 weeks, seems like a year should have passed by now. Been having to get creative in order to fill my time so that I don't think about it. In the past few weeks my H has not even contacted his parents to tell them he moved, or anyone else important for that matter, still getting calls for him from anybody and everybody who didn't previously have his cell number. a few people even hung up on me, no explanation or anything, didn't even wait for a number to contact him at. just hung up when I replied that he no longer lived at this number. <P>well anyway, He still hasn't talked to his parents and told them anything. His parents do know because my mom-in-law and I are pretty good freinds, or at least we have been till now,(and I thought she should know. was this right?). Now I am not sure how I proceed with my relationship with her. I am meeting her tomorrow and we are going curriculum shopping for next year together. but I am very nervous. Do I continue on in our relationship as friends as always or should I distance myself. The lines are not very clear on what I should do. can anybody give me any advise/words of wisdom/encouragement, anything really, as to what I should do here.<P>------------------<BR>Irene

Maintain ALL the family relationships you can! I'm glad you get along well with your MIL. Be a friend to her, but don't give her your personal marital details. Any too personal stuff might come back to bite you in the tail later. <P>Answer the basic questions truthfully.<P>If she starts asking too many questions you can refer her to her son. <P>Be a good person, hold on to your own integrity and don't cover up for him. <P>Just don't bash him. <P><BR>Just the facts.<P>There is no reason to ditch all your former friends friends just because you broke up with a friend! That is a very sixth-grade thing to do.

Dear Irene:<P>I'm the one who posted about "some help please". I am leaving my home today because my husband who comes back tonight asked me to, the reason I am replying to you is because I ve been having lunch at my mother-in law house the last three months while he was away.<BR>I would say that is good to keep good relationships with her but try to avoid too many details unless she is the "really-friend"type. Mine is too competitive for that.<BR>I also wanted to share with you that I am feeling very bad because the situation I am forced to, but anyway I find great strength in prayer. I will pray for you too.<P>lenchen<BR>