We went to court this morning for the permanent restraining order hearing. The judge pointed out the seriousness of the other girls' actions in todays world, and that no one approves of flipping off other, driving recklessly, threatening, gossiping, namecalling...etc.<P>Then said he would like the 2 families to go into a room and see if it was possible to mediate, before we continued. Since we were not the ones to skip the first mediation meeting, we agreed...and so did they. The dad was conciliatory in a lamebrain sort of way "we didn't know the meeting was with YOU GUYS and since the girls quit, we didn't think we had to go to a parents meeting." True, there could have been miscommunication.<P>The older girl admitted to the flipping off, swerving the car in front of us, threatening to beat up my daughter...but started crying and saying she was being blamed for stuff she didn't do. Since that was pretty much what we said she did...? Her parents just kinda glared at her--and I'm sure my expression lacked sympathy--but her parents told her to apologize. Her mouth dropped, but she apologized in a surly manner. "I'm sorry. I don't hate you--I never talked to you."<P>Her written statement, which we recieved in court, still said my daughter's passenger was a "friend". I did correct that, that I saw her and her sisters actions. She said, but you were riding with your husband (the car in front of us). I said no, that was our other daughter. I was in the car she flipped off. I don't understand her reasoning, her actions were disrespectful & rude either way, moreso to a parent, but that's just a matter of degree. <P>The mother said we should have called them, rather than going to the coach. Maybe--but we didn't/don't know them, and it isn't like the dad was very nice in the conversation he did have with me.<P>The mom also said that one of the other team members was just as mean to my daughter as her daughters were. Yes, the older daughter's best friend has indeed continued to be very mean to my daughter. A little more passing the buck?<BR> <BR>Anyway, the parents said that we would have no more problem with their girls, they guaranteed it. So, we didn't file. I figure the incident report is in a police file, we have the temp restraining order papers--if they do anything we immediately proceed.<P>Oh yeah...softball is supposed to be fun, right? I truly thank God that team's games are over for the year.

Bravo!! Hope those girls learned their lesson. ... wishful thinking I imagine. Even so, <I>someone </I>in their life has to show them some boundaries. Lucky you!

Thank you for the update. I'm sorry your daughter had to go through all of this (I wish the incident never happened), but it sounds like you and your husband handled it well and it was a good lesson. <P>Too bad the the daughter that created the havoc wasn't able to take more responsibility for her actions. But, I guess what can we expect when she can act the way she did?

Thanks lonesome heart & raskal. You know I spent the last couple years learning to be a better wife, and now I realize it has strengthened my parenting as well. I'm still a mama bear when it comes to someone threatening my kids but we really worked with our daughter through this.<P>My hope & prayer is that these parents have the courage to follow through with their promise, and keeping these girls in line in other areas of their lives.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8