Hello Everyone!<P>I am brand new to this forum. I am a home-schooling, stay at home mom of 3 small children and I am currently 5 months pregnant. My husband is a former christian and has recently started a new job as a car salesman. We have been married nearly 10 years. I have a wonderful home business which brings in a very good part-time income. ($1,000-$2,000 monthly.)Presently, our current problems are spiritual, financial and concern family commitment. I love my husband. He is an excellent provider and provides me domestic support by doing the laundry, the shopping and taking out the trash. He is very affectionate and we have a very active and fulfilling sex life. I do my best to meet all of his emotional needs and provide him with domestic support, as well as handling the educational responsibilities for my family and assisting him with additional income. My only problem with my husband is that he does not seem to be committed to the family since he started his new job.<P>His current job requires him to work many hours. He works nearly 7 days a week and lately, does not stay home on his off day. A typical day begins with us waking up, cuddling for about 30 mins or so. He chats with the children for a while and takes his shower and gets dressed. He eats breakfast quickly, grabs his lunch and gives us all quick kisses and heads out the door. Usually around 9am. Although his work schedule varies.<P>He normally won't come home until after 11 pm at night. Sometimes even early morning. So my children only see him for a very small amount of time each day. I have aksed him to cut down on his hours in order to spend more time with myself and the children but he feels it is not necessary. He makes enough to cover our basic needs working regular hours,yet he still works long hours anyway. I am heartbroken. My husband was not raised by his father, and knows the pain so it really hurts when he doesn't take his responsibilities seriously. I am also concerned about his health since he doesn't sleep as much as has lost weight.(He has a thin athletic build). Although I prepare his meals, he doesn't always have time to eat due to customers.<P>My pregnancy is advancing and I am starting to feel overwhelmed. I have no family or friends where I live. We moved to this state so my husband could continue his educational pursuits which he later dropped due to various issues too long to go into. We are currently renting a large apartment and our wish is to move into a house sometime next year. Although I want a house badly, I would be willing to wait a little longer in order to see my husband more. He told me when he started this job that he would not work overtime. As you can see, this is not the case. <P>He says that once we get a house he will stay home and do the business I am doing full-time at home. He says this job is only to provide income for the house. (Difficult when self-employed). I want him to be happy and don't want to pressure him. However, I don't want my children to be neglected either. This job is very demanding and the salesman at his job stress money and gain. Most of the salesman are divorced or in unhappy marriages. I know my husband is not having an affair or anything like that, but I do think he needs to adjust his priorities. I have thought about visiting my family in another state temporarily for some family support, but I think this may make problems worse since he may perceive this as abandonment. I have been praying daily about this, but would like some advice from some prayerful souls. Please excuse the long post! I really did try to make this short!

Hi, and welcome.<P>I have lots of things to say, but I'm pressed for time -- quite suddenly too. My H just said, "hey, let's go to...." and we're getting the car and going... <P>So, I have to run... I'll be back tomorrow, okay?<P>Just wanted you to know you're being heard tonight!

Allanah,<P>Hello and welcome to MB. I would like to share with you something that I am doing that may be useful in your situation as well--you can be the judge of it. <P>The Women's Bible Study forum some time ago was sort of doing a group study on the Power of a Praying Wife by Stormy O'Martin. From their thread, I got interested in this book and purchased it. It is an excellent book with readings for 30 days. Each day you pray for some other area of your husband's life. Although I am unmarried I am doing this for my boyfriend. There is an issue that I would like to address with him but I have decided to wait to address it until I come to the time where that issue comes up in the book. I figure until then God is using the book to soften my heart and work in his life and prepare. I have seen some really good things happen as a result of this (and I've been praying it now for about two weeks) and still haven't gotten to my subject matter. Even though I feel impatient or strongly about it, it is okay, cause God is preparing me and the way.<P>Perhaps this book might also assist in softening your heart and your husbands. I know just the other day I was praying for his priorities and this reminded me of your post.<P>Maybe this is something to consider... It has and is assisting me and us.<P>May God bless and sustain you.<P>HM