My h has been gone now for 6 weeks. He comes over on a weekly basis as of late to do his laundry. He doesn't speak much to me or the kids. My daughters have lost all respect for him. He is using my insurance and has been to the doctor twice which I know nothing about. He does not call during the week or before he comes over to do his laundry. Right now I am struggling with whether or not I still love hime or want him back. The house is much more relaxed. The kids are not clamoring to call their dad. My youngest daughter use to go to bed with a pot because she was afraid she was going to get sick. Since her dad has left she no longer sleeps with a pot. He now has a job after 7 months of being unemployed and the unemployment checks ran out. The job however is in the town where the OW lives. He is even attending her church. I have had several people tell me that I should let her husband know what is going on. It has been 1 1/2 since I found out. I have tried to leave everything in God's hands but it is real hard since I don't know what I want anymore. I still believe that the Lord will bring my husband home but right now I don't want him home. Is this normal? My husband is still paying the household bills. I feel he wants to come home but then he would have to admit that he sinned and my husband doesn't do anything wrong!!. Any advice is appreciated.<P>Elia

Father, touch this sister and bring her peace today as she waits for your wisdom and for your timing in all things. Father we know you hate divorce and yet you also have told us that marital infidelity is grounds for divorce. I thank you that the little ones are sleeping better, that the separation cause them less grief than remaining together had. Thank you that this H has found a job and that he continues to assume financial responsibility for the family. Strentghen this mom that she may be firm in boundaries, boundaries that honor herself and her children, boundaries that clearly state what behaviors need to change before reconcilliation will occcur. Continue to provide her with your wisdom. IJN, Amen.

Amen.