Help!!<p>My h is uncomfortable coming over to the house to see his kids. He would like it if I left the house. Should I leave? He has flat out lied twice to his kids about things. They don't buy his excuse that he has been trying for the last 8-10 years to make things work out. He has on numerous occasions to tell me to forgive and forget but now he is in that mode and is coming up with everything that he can to find fault with me. I have been praying and praying for the past year and a half and I am ready to give up. I told my h that I didn't know if I still loved him or want him to come home anymore but I do believe that the Lord meant for us to be together but the bitternes that I thought that I had under control is starting to evolve in my heart again and I don't want the devil to get his hold on me again but I just don't know what to do anymore. He is so angry and bitter about everything and most angry about the fact that I haven't fallen apart and I am not begging him to come home (At least that is what I think he is feeling or it is wishful thinking on my part). I need help. Please help me!!!!!
Elia

Elia<p>Do you want your marriage to recover? If so, God is in the recovery business!<p>Why does your husband want to come to the house for visitation instead of picking the kids up? Does he have any reasonable reasons for that?<p>I don't understand why you and your husband want your children to - sort of - 'justify' either of your behaviors. Can you expand on that a little? Why does he need approval from the children, or do you think you need approval from the kids?<p>I know you desperately seek the Lord's help - I do too. God is good, and He will help. All things work together for good for those that love the Lord and are called according to His purposes.<p>Keep talking!
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Elia
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I don't know why my husband would prefer to come to the house rather than pick the kids up. The kids have expressed to me that they don't want me to leave. My h now has found an apartment but he hasn't informed me of this personally. I found out from someone else. His sister who went through a divorce told him to come into the house and take half of everything since he owns half. He hasn't done this and I don't believe he will. He has called twice now to talk to this kids for the first time in two months. I do believe that God is going to restore my marriage but Satan is trying very hard to control my mind. The Lord is leading down this path for a reason and I have become closer to the Lord during this time. My faith has never been stronger but I have days where I want to crawl into a hole and bury myself. I asked the Lord to give me a sign that my h is coming around and finding his way back to the Lord. I pray that the Lord sends the holy spirit to soften his heart to hear the Lord.
Thanks for your encouragement. It feels good to talk to someone and I know that your prayers are there for both my husband and me and my family.<p>Elia

Don't leave. He can make a home for himself and see the kids on his own turf. Unless he is on restricted or supervised visitation court Orders the situation is entirely up to him. But don't let him kick you out of your home. And don't make the kids feel uncomfortable by letting him push you aside. He is just trying to keep you doing all his work for him.