My MIL Samantha said that I probably should let you guys know that I am new here.<p>My husband (24), obviously Samantha's son, told me on his birthday, October 16th, that he didn't want to be married any longer. Said there was no one else, just not happy. That evening I found e-mails to the OW and later that week for naked pictures of the OW on the digital camera. H got physical with me, I got scared for my safety and that of my 3-year old daughter's, and felt forced to move out of my home. I moved out within 2 weeks of D-Day.<p>Since then, my H and I have been on again / off again with the hopes of rebuilding our marriage. When the OW and her BF are getting along, our relationship does great - when the OW and her BF are doing bad, our relationship suffers. I have met the OW and H insists that there is nothing physical going on, but believe the amount of time spent with the OW is causing an emotional affair. <p>The OW is 19 years old and I believe to be quite immature, she wants us to be friends. The 3 of us have had dinner together and OW has watched our daughter while H and I have gone out and spent time together. H insists that I accept his friendship with her or I will be out of his life completely, he has even gave his mother the same ultimatum - accept OW or lose him.<p>I am trying to decide whether to Plan A or Plan B, even though it's been a short amount of time, H has requested a long break from each other.<p>I will be posting mostly on the Plan A/B board.

Hi emerald,<p>You've come to the right place!! WELCOME!!<p>I'm sure Samantha has told ya allllll about the concepts here, but if you have any questions, you can read the welcome message that is linked below, in my signature line. It will answer any questions you may have.<p>This particular part of the board is a bit different because you will get prayer and a Christian perspective. You can get that too on the other areas where you posted, but that's pretty much what we talk about here -- how God figures in to all this...<p>This board is usually slower than others too... we are a tight knit group though, and you will be in good hands.<p>My ex-H did cheat in our early years, we got through it and even had a marriage renewal service! You can get through this... remember that. <p>I was married for 20 years... in the end (many years after those early cheating years) we couldn't make it. I'm married to someone else now. But I've been here, at MB for going-on three years, and I've made some wonderful friends here - real life friends like your MIL. (Hi Sam! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] )<p>Again, welcome... and post your little heart out... it's the best way to get to know people, and let them get to know you!

Hi new_beginning,<p>Thank you so much for the wonderful and warm welcome.

Dear emerald, I'm sorry you are going though this, I don't think there is anything that hurts someone more than adultery. Please know I am praying too. Pray a hedge of thorns around your husband and that the spirits of divorce and adultery are bound in Jesus' name and loose the spirits of fidelity and everlasting marriage. Pray asking the Lord to give your husband spiritual ears to hear His commandments and the Word of God be etched in his heart. <p>God can heal your marriage emerald. Nothing is too big or impossible for Him. Blessings to you,<p>AW