I had original posted this on GQII as "trustntruth are you lurking"<p>If you are, I would be so pleased if you would answer back or e mail me.
I had seen a post when I first come on and you had mentioned being LCMS. At the time I was living in VA and there weren't too many of us there. And now that I am back in SD there are more of us.<p>I've been looking for answers to my situation and praying alot, and I wonder how this is God's plan and where it is leading me. How does this fit in with the church? How did you handle all of this?<p>If you can shed any light on any of this I would appreciate it!!<p>Thanks Dawn <p>--------------------<p>[ February 17, 2002: Message edited by: daybreak ]</p>

Hi Daybreak!<p>I will be back later - just want you to know that I see your post - gotta help 9 yr old study for his social studies test tomorrow.<p>Yes, I am LCMS - I will talk to you later.
TNT

Hi Daybreak,<p>Sorry I wasn't able to get back here last night. I have a little time this morning, so I went and read some of your recent posts to get a feel for where you are at. <p>You sound like you are in good spirits - ready to face whatever comes your way - but it is not what you choose? <p>Also, I had to laugh because it seems we have some things in common. You took your sofa apart and attempting to re-upholster it? I did that once - I bought some sheets that were on clearance and re-upholstered a couch that I inherited (It was the ugliest thing until I got done) when I moved to MN - to be with husband. (I'm originally from So CA.)<p>LCMS - there are not a lot of us much of anywhere. Wouldn't you know that my husband's OW is LCMS too! uggh. <p>Anyway - what kind of questions do you have? I am not sure I am a success story - but I know I am growing, and I have seen the Lord intervene on my behalf - and my marriage's behalf many times. <p>You are close to Lor - and she is a wonderful prayer partner, as are all of the ladies on this corner of the board. You said you bought the book, power of a praying wife? How did you do with chapter 1? <p>God Bless you,
TNT

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I wonder how this is God's plan and where it is leading me. How does this fit in with the church?<hr></blockquote><p>Daybreak - can you be more specific with your questions? How does marriage or divorce fit with the church? Is that your question?<p>Well, marriage is not a 'sacrament' in LCMS - only thing that are sacraments are baptism and communion. A sacrament is something that offers forgiveness of sins. Marriage doesn't offer forgiveness of sins. <p>You are LCMS, is your husband?

tnt,<p>Thanks for the e mail and the post today. I work at a school and can't get on there, so wait till I get home.<p>Yes I am strong and ready for whatever will come, I hate not having any say in this, H is very adament about divorcing. Doesn't matter what I want and we are already seperated, geographically, haven't figured out if this is good or bad.<p>My H was catholic and switched to LCMS on his own before we were married even, I knew that he didn't agree with everything, but that ok. He supported me and getting the kids to church and Sunday School, confirmation. While H was in Korea he didn't go to church on his own, didn't need God, Duh! didn't want to have a guilty concsious, stopped going to church altogether when he came home.<p>I now that the Lord is with me in how ever I handle the thing to come. I've talked with pastor about this and his sermons seem to hit some point about my situation every Sunday. I know that I need to be quiet and let the Lord tell me what to do, I'm listening and I am not hearing anything specific, so I wonder if what I am hearing is the Lord on just me being to optimistic?<p>I know that the church is not in favor of Divorce but are accepting of it. I still have a hard time with that as I see it as failing on my part, if the Lord had been more in marriage maybe this wouldn't have happened to me.<p>
I haven't gotten through chapter 1 yet of praying wife, just have kind of done a hit and miss on it. Have been going to bed early also as I have a muscle spasm in my back, that I am dealing with right now.<p>I'm not sure where I was going with this post, got confused w ith the girls interupting every 2 sec to tell me something about their day. I love it though!!<p>I guess I still don't want a divorce, and that I can see H and I working on this marriage and making it better, then it was before. There are somedays that I want him back because he owes me for all the time I gave to him, and then others I don't as I can't stand what he has done to our family, he doesn't deserve us or only want him back if he wants to be with me!! I have a bracelet that has F.R.O.G. on it and I have had it on non stop the last 4 years, (got it in Atlanta when I took 6 youth to the Youth Gateehering), I look it and ask the Lord to keep me going.<p>I must get the sofa done tonight!!!! Bad back and all can't take it anymore!!<p>Thank you, again!! Some days it seems like such a struggle!!<p>Dawn

Hi Dawn<p>My husband and I were separated geographically for 5 months in 95, and again in 96. He moved to MN and left us in So CA. I have quite a testimony how God still can move mountains. Anyway, I ended up joining him in MN. <p>My husband converted to LCMS after we were married, too. <p>Just wanted to say hi - see if you want to keep this conversation going or not.<p>How is your couch coming along?<p>TNT

I would love to keep this going, I really haven't made any friends of my own since being here. so MBer's is all I got right now. And I thank God every night for them!!<p>Have had an awful week, posted details on Gen Q, on MnM, most miserable valentines day. UGH!!<p>Did get the sofa done last Friday night, still need to sew the pillows, but will drive my girls to Casper WY to meet WH and will make the trip again Tues to pick them up.<p>Got Divorce papers in the mail today, have 20 days to respond, had gotten a recommendation from LOR for an Attorney, called to try and get an appointment yet today and nothing available. So now I have to see him tomorrow, did talk to him tonight, but all about kids, did not acknowledge papers. I so don't want this divorce, but don't know what it is that I can do to stop it!!<p>I would love to hear your testominal about moving mountains....I could use some uplifting!!!<p>Will be back tomorrow night. It's a 4 hour drive one way and 4 hours back!! What a way to spend a Saturday!!<p>Hope to hear from you soon!!<p>Dawn

Hi Daybreak,<p>My heart goes out to you for what you are going through. I too am separated and trusting God COMPLETELY (thus the name faithwalk) I've learned a lot about what God thinks about marriage and divorce in the last 10 months especially in the last two months. Honey God doesn't want you to be divorced. He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and HE hates divorce. You say that you don't want this divorce and couldn't get an appointment with a lawyer that is DIVINE intervention. Let God handle it he is the greatest lawyer and counselor that you will ever need. TRUST me on this. I walked away from my marriage and was going to hire a lawyer cause I was mad and God spoke to me and said let me handle it. So i did and the peace is beautiful that HE provides. God has provided me with all that I need. And even when I thought i don't care if this marriage works and to my eye how could God be able to fix this mess He was working and providing. I wasn't even really praying for restoration just saying God you know my Heart. Well the anger is gone from both of us and in the last two months I realize how much I love my H and he has been to see me 5 times and stayed to visit and the Best Part...God gave my pastor a message that I was to invite my H for supper so I did and He accepted right away and came to my new house which he had never been to and stayed for 3.5 hours and we talked the whole time. Before January we couldn't be in the same room without it turning nasty. If you can let God rebuild this for you there is a lot of scripture out there that will tell you how to do it and how to trust God. God's word is the same for everyone and if you can surrender it to Him and trust Him everything will be as it should.<p>God Bless You
Faithwalk

Wow Faithwalk, your first post and oh so much wisdom!!Welcome to MB! You must have been a lurker?<p>I've been a Christian my whole life and know no other way in life. I've prayed for my WH every day for the past 20 years and now I ask the Lord to move his heart.<p>I have turned this over to God and sometimes it is so hard to do nothing. We never fought, disagreement or two, nothing to warrant him wanting to leave. WH believes that he is in love with HS sweetheart and it is only her that is his true soulmate, but we shared 20+ years and three kids. Did I mention that he turned 40 when this all started?<p>In the state that I am in I have 20 days to acknowledge that I have been served(thru the mail) and if I don't do so, he will send a process server or the sherrif to give me the papers. Don't want that to happen!! We then have 60 days to reach an agrrement, if not then it goes to court. I believe that this is the way I understand it.<p>Just another piece of ironicism (sp) The first lawyer that I called and set up an appointment with is the same lawyer that WH called from UT and retained! Is that not ironic? I so want to believe that that was the Lords work!! I have accepted that there may be no stopping my WH, and perhaps the Lord has something else for me to do, but oh how I hope ! I'm listening and I'm just not hearing what the Lord wants of me at this time, I have thought that I am listening to hard perhaps.<p>
<<<If you can let God rebuild this for you there is a lot of scripture out there that will tell you how to do it and how to trust God.>>><p>What scriptures would you recommend? I'm just so tired of all this, that I have kind of resigned myself to it, and have no more fight left!! Then I remember that it usually takes two years for an A to die it's natural death, I've got 11 months to go on that!!UGH!!!<p>
Ugh it is 1:30 am here and I must be off to bed so that I will be up for Church in time!!! Thanks so much for the post, perhaps you are an angel!! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>
God Bless,
Dawn