Hi Everyone,<p>Well got a letter from Tony's lawyer that he wants even more stuff from the house. Most important he wants the cats. My babies. The one thing I love more than anything.<p>Well I am talking to a lawyer tomorrow. This is it. It was agreed upon that he had one shot and only from the list. I am so angry I could spit nails right now. He is doing this because he lost and can not contact me. When ever he did not get his way he would find ways to punish me. This is just one way of doing that.<p>My baby loves are now starting to relax and be happy. Please pray that he looses again. I am not going through this anymore.

Yes, he is just wanting the cats because he is trying to engage you into the conflict - trying desperately to have some kind of connection to you.<p>You stick to your guns. You are almost there, Paha. Stay safe. <p>I'm praying for you.<p>Love,
TNT

Tony is a *@*(!& #$&*! *#(@&#@ (^!@#$. He abandoned his own pets and now he wants yours??? What ever happened to Tony's fish anyway! Wait, don't tell me. Let me guess. They're still at your house and you're taking care of them. Am I right? I agree with tnt. Engaging in conflict is the only way he can connect with you at this point. How is he able to pay this attorney for such frivolous bs? <p>My H was also strange about the pets. We still have our original pets, his bird and my cat. I remember his comment about keeping birds from our early days. He referred to keeping birds as his "therapy." He seemed to recognize a long time ago that his Vietnam experience did considerable damage. Somewhere along the line, he was told that if he had the patience to keep a bird happy, he'd be able to cope with the residual effects of vietnam. He doted on that bird. <p>Over the last year in particular, the neglect he has shown that bird is profound. When H left the first time in December, that poor bird's water dish was bone dry. Prior to that, he let the seeds collect in the bottom of the cage for so long that bugs were hatching out of them. When H moved out two weeks ago, he left the bird behind without saying one word about it. I didn't really expect him to take the bird. The poor thing would have frozen to death in a house without heat. Even so, it's unconscionable to me that he would leave and not even ASK me to care for the bird. Either he assumes I'll take care of it, or he doesn't care whether the bird lives or dies. <p>The times H has returned to the house, he shows interest in my cat but not his bird. Paha, there's something very wrong with our men. Depression and who knows what else interferes with their ability to function normally. He doesn't have any legal claim to your cats. You have a restraining order restricting his access to you and your property. He is simply stooping to unprecedented depths to keep your focus on Tony.

HI Paha,
and tony wants......there is going to be no end to what tony WANTS! The guy will cont to try tactics that irritate, anger and hinder progress until you stop him. He is just throwing a little different kind of tantrum here by using an attorney. Not really much different than he has been doing all along is it paha?
Stand firm, dont give him anything, except maybe a good-bye wave.
Sending prayers, cl

Paha,
Tony is unreasonable. I'm sorry that you continue to have to deal with him in his state, when you love(d) him so very much.<p>I wasn't aware of any sort of cat-shortage, I'm a cat lover, have 4, but it isn't like they are loyal or give love on any basis but their own time-table & inclination...moody little beasts. You can be petting them and all of a sudden they have to be somewhere else and their claws (back claws for the otherwise de-clawed) have ripped whatever skin was near.<p>If we lived nearer he could have my youngest cat...a left-over litter result from not having the 3rd one spayed soon enough. But cats are plentiful, if he wants one, he can get one, there is no reason for him to take yours out of your house.

Hi Everyone,<p>Thank you so much for your kind words Tnt, LH, CL, and Lor. <p>I know he just want to punish me. Monday he called and accused me of abusing the cats. Me...really. Those two babies are spoiled little brats! I pamper them all the time. It just makes me sick. He does not care about them no where near as much as I do. <p>Abby and Goliath have calmed down since he left and now the play with each other and are relaxed. <p>I went to the cort to day and filed a Admendment of Clarrification. So I know have to take time off of work yet again and go to court to get the Judge rulement on should Tony have the right to come yet again to the house and get more items. It will never end.<p>Since Tony called Monday I have to go to the Police Station and file a complaint so he will get arrested. I feel such guilt over this. I know I did not cause this but still. I am also affraid because I have no idea what he is going to do once he gets arrested. <p>Can you please pray for me. Also pray that I get a really good paying job very soon. I am going to have to change the phone number. Tony will never stop calling. Ughh...am I doing the right thing? I have no idea.