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I just finished reading Stormie Omartian's book "Just Enough Light for the Step I'm on". It's small, easy to read, but there's nothing lightweight about it! Yesterday I had something to mark on my calendar that was pretty amazing. My H was nice to me! I haven't received a compliment from him since I baked cookies from scratch at Christmastime.

I feel like this book has revealed some of the things I've been missing since I found MB two years ago. I'd like to read it one more time before handing it back the library. Thought I'd put the word out and see if anyone wants to have a discussion. Those of you who know me, y'all know I'm a slow learner! I'll love some help in gaining all the insight possible from this incredible book.

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Hi LH,

Boy, it's a ghost town around these parts, isn't it? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I truly just logged in to answer you, my dear. I have this book and have looked it over, but haven't done a study or anything. I think it would be neat.

I reallly don't hang around here much anymore... so if you come back and respond, give me a day or two to reply back to you. Or email me. We can talk there.

Much love,
Sheryl

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Hi there

Not sure what this site is for, but I'll try to get a copy of that book, it sounds good.

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Hi Sheryl!
Long time no see. Shoot me an email will ya? I'm strattling two computers, and I'm NOT importing my old address book onto my new computer. Too much clutter.

Things are movin and shakin for me lately. I'll shoot for posting a thread on Sunday about this book. Those of you who know my story also know that my H is very distant toward me. He's been nice to me three times in just one week. I'll have a lot to say about the chapter "surrendering dreams." Hope to see some more folks get this book soon and join in. No need to wait on me, actually. Anyone with comments to share about "Just enough light for the step I'm on" is welcome to dive right in. It's a really great book.

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Hey, I was a-watchin' and you didn't come back and post! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Listen, I'll get an email out to you soon... let's catch up soon, okay?

And yes, I am serious about wanting to do a book study, but I'm so not motivated right now. If you come back and we begin some dialoging (is that a word? LOL) I'd maybe get my butt in gear.

Have you heard from Paha? I'm worried about her...

Take care LH, and BIG HUGS!

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Well if this is a ghost town i guess I am a ghost. Talk about a while since I have been around. How is everyone?!!!

lonesome it was good to see your name.

quick update: h moved out almost three years ago and girlfriend moved in about a year ago. It has been a rough road, but God has been great.

I am at this point trying to get on with things, though it is hard. After much thought and over the last year we have been trying to do mediation and come up with a separation agreement. We almost finished but when it comes to the money thing his emotions get in the way and we haven't been able to complete it. So I guess I will have to look for a lawyer.

He says I he can't talk to me. So I don't even try anymore unless something about the kids needs discussing. But even then I don't often consult him unless I have to. The truth is it has been almost impossible to have a conversation with him unless it is small talk. I'm often defending myself before long, which is a mechanism he uses [unconsciously] to deflect any conversation away from the substance. It is a pattern or dance we used for a very long time.

I have had to admit the relationship has been verbally and emotionally abusive for years. That was a ahard one to admit because i wanted it healed so much.
It is very sad to me. You all know how hard I tried and how dedicated I was. But in the end God is in charge and He will take me where he wants me to go. I have to admit I have been angry even at God some. But I can't stay angry with Him. He is my only hope.

I started working last Nov, after graduating in May of 2001. It seems two kids and working again at my age is more demanding then it was even 10 years ago. One reason I have not been on the forum.

I think about you all and pray for you.

I have been letting go gradually over the last year. I see all the good God has brought out of it.

One of the greatest things has been rediscovering my joy of laughing. I think it must be many years since I have laughed. My kids get this funny look on their face and then join me.
I have been working on writing poetry again and dug out the work of fiction I started 10 years ago.

Now as for your question. I read the book a year ago or so. Great book as is all her stuff.

Chapter 11: Surrendering Your Dreams, especially was significant to me.

"God puts dreams in our hearts to give us vision and inspiration and to guide us to the right path. That's why we have to make sure the dreams we have are not from our own flesh. The only way to be sure of that is to lay all of our dreams at His feet and let them die. And we must also die to them. The ones that are not from Him will be buried forever. The ones that are from Him will be given new life."
"And the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after we have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To Him be the power for ever and ever. Amen" 1 Peter 5:10-11

This has been really hard for me to do and not to take it back or to push God away.

I'm learning to trust again. I discovered I don't trust anyone. But I have asked God to teach me to trust and that must begin with trusting Him. So I am brought back to laying my dreams at His feet. Then letting go of them and walking beside God and waiting to see what He brings into my life. I keep coming up with new dreams but then I remember to just let them go and be patient and wait. Not for my h to come home but for what God brings.

well as usual I wrote too much. Just good to say hi.

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Thanks HW for the update, and for reminding us to laugh, and also about how God puts that inspiration or vision or dream in our heart.

I remember when I went through my divorce; my X had left me for a woman of another race. I was a very prejudiced person, and this just made that hate grow deeper.

But, God DOES replace things in our heart. I realized I had to confess my hate and sin, and I did - and God began a new work in my heart. He gave me a desire to work with people from 'all nations'.

One day in 1995 - after church, we took a drive up the mountain - about 45 minutes. I fell asleep on the way. When I woke up, we were already at the lake and my husband and little boy were outside throwing stones in the water. There were a couple of other vehicles around.

As I woke up, I heard music. I heard harmonizing and beautiful music - like a choir. It was unusual, no one listens to that kind of music it seems anymore. When I got out of the car, I asked my husband which car was playing the music. (The minute I opened the car door, the music stopped.) He said that no one was playing any music, no cars had any music going, and I thought that was really weird, how come I could hear it but no one else could? hmmmmmm....

I had decided earlier that year to read the bible from the beginning to the end, and I was in Zepheniah at that time. The next morning, I had opened my Bible to where I left off and what does it say?

"Is that a joyous choir I hear? No, it is the Lord exulting you in happy song." It went on to say that the Lord would bless me, and that I would be known among all the nations of the earth.

The following year I moved (VERY reluctantly) to northern MN, where I began working with refugees from all the nations! I loved that work.

So, I guess, this is just a little bit about how God does change our hearts, and puts the desires in our heart, and then fulfills the desires of our heart.

I'll post an update on another thread - but I just wanted to say hi to you ladies and although I don't have this book, I think Stormy has some great great great ways of putting down God's principles into language that us ladies can understand.

Talk to you later,
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Good Afternoon all. This is my receiving day. I think it is time I definitely checked out both of Stormie's books. I do work in the Library. I have missed you all! Life has been a whirlwind. Be blessed-- YMON

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I have not read the book you are referring to as yet. My accountability partner and I recently read Stormie's book "The Power of a Praying Husband", and my wife is currently reading "The Power of a Praying Wife", and a few other books centering around anger management ("She's Gonna Blow" and "Answers to a Woman's Anger" (I think that's the title?)). I am very new to this whole website and I'm not sure I'm welcome given my maleness and all, but that's never stopped me before! I am greatly encouraged to see the kind of dialog between you ladies here, I only wish men were as forthcoming (I seem to be an odd one in this respect!).

If memory serves the book you gals are referring to here rings true of the story of the foot lanterns that were used in the olden days that only shed enough light for the person to take one step securely. Stormie uses this story as an analogy to our walk with God, that we must take one step out in faith and FROG (Fully Rely on God) for the rest of the steps rather than living in the flesh and depending on our own knowledge of the world to lead us. Funny how the flesh almost always leads us into temptation and not to the Lord no? I find that interesting considering the Lord's prayer contains the phrase "and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil." When I think of temptation as fleshly desires, this prayer makes me realize that to not FROG will always lead to disappointment in my life as I rely on my own strengths (which are really weaknesses). The Bible is full of dichotomies like this that rock my world on a pretty consistent basis.

I guess I'll have to finally break down and order this book from Stormie since I already have it and about a hundred other items on my amazon.com wishlist. I am greatly encouraged by all of the heartfelt and Godly sharing on this section of this website. God Bless each of You, may the mercy of God the Father and the love of Jesus Christ be with you all!

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ymon! Where you been? Your kid must be ready for college by now, it's been so long! j/k!

Craig, I saw Sheryl's welcome post to you. I say welcome too! Since I started this thread and promptly didn't follow through, I just want to say again how profoundly this book helped me through a rough spot. The chapter on surrendering dreams hit me like a ton of bricks. I resisted the idea, kicking and screaming and crying. Then I tried again the next day, and every day since. I can do it cheerfully now. I'm hardly a pillar of obedience, but I truly believe I must be doing something right because things get better all the time. I have peace that I never had before. My future is very uncertain, but it doesn't concern me, because I have just enough light for the step I'm on.

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Hello Heart!! I have been living thank you very much. I read an online interview w/Stormie. She has a wealth of knowledge, so I will be getting her book by another avenue. My patrons have taken off with all the copies at my job here in the library. I pray you all are well. Looking for another home for my family and please pray that we clearly go where God knows we can afford it, and it does not kill our transportation. Back to Stormie, those prayers of a wife she spoke of in the interview I read were conformation for me. I discovered there were some things I just could not get with concerning others' treatment of me or why my h would behave in some ways and wonder why he still was not succeeding... When she mentioned those prayers, I was like"thank You God, I am on the right track". Ymon


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