My husband was brought up to attend church every Sunday, and now with some pushing from me, still goes. If I were gone, I doubt he would go.

The topic of his spirituality rarely ever comes up, and I have to wonder if he has ever had any real relationship with God. I often think that if he could have just one truly spiritual experience it would change him for the better.

When I pray for him, I thank God for a dependable, faithful man, but then I am lost as far as what to ask on his behalf. This, of course, brings on another topic...

Does praying for someone who doesn't seem spiritual at all, do any good?

sooly

<small>[ January 22, 2003, 03:50 PM: Message edited by: soolyusa ]</small>

Yes it does tremendously! Thank God there is a God, and I ain't it!! God is a good God and he wants us to want to choose Him. Is your name in the lambs book of life? That is a good question to ask to break the ice to find out where he is at spritually. In 1 Corinthians 7:1-16 it tells of what a wife is to do when the husband is not saved. I would suggest that you read that and do get that book, "The Power of a Praying Wife". It does give you insight in how and what to pray, for your husband. Then you might want to read about the "Ideal Wife" in Proverbs 31. We are imperfect people with the desire to become better. Marriage Roles are found in Ephesians 5:21-33. God is ever with us, loving us, and blessing us. Romans 4:17b states, "Calleth those things that be not as though they were". I stand on that verse when my husband "don't act right". HA HA HA!! Have to remember that God is in control, not me!

I would say it works. For me, I was already exploring my spirituality, but was blind to the emotional trampling I was doing to my wife. I was raised Catholic, and never opened my Bible.

My wife, on the other hand, as the daughter of Baptist ministers, is deeply religious, and had been praying for my salvation for some time. Unfortunately, for many of us, our faith isn't really tested or felt inside until a crisis occurs. For me, the crisis was when my wife had submitted to me one too many times, and left me to stay with her parents in September.

The harsh truth is that when we confront crises, we are inspired immediately to make changes in order to "fix" the situation. The kind of changes that spouses want to see won't be trusted until the changes are effected for the long term.

Encourage your husband as much as you can, try your best to fulfill his EN's, communicate your own EN's as much as possible, and don't give up on praying. Group prayer helps even more, so you may wish to sign up with Cajunky's prayer nights on Wednesdays.

I attend Bible study on Wednesdays, go to Brothers by Choice (Christian Men's Group) meetings on Fridays, and church on Sunday. I have learned a lot, but have a long way to go. In essence, I have learned that wives want to be treated the way that Jesus Christ treats his bride, the church.

I'm getting baptized again this summer at my church's summer camping event, and going to Promise Keepers later this year. Even if I end up divorced, I know I can be a better person.

Be strong and continue to pray. My wife's prayers are being answered as we speak, if a little on the tardy side.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

God Bless!