I was wondering..... who all out there prayed and asked God wether or not to marry their spouse before they were married? I feel I have made a horrible mistake in not asking God's guidance when I married my husband.

Talliho,

There are not really many people in this forum. You should post this in the Prayer Request forum. There are alot of good people there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

My husband and I are divorced, and yes, we both prayed (and fasted) before we married. I was the one who first thought I made a "mistake" when I married him (because it was hard! Isn't marriage supposed to be "easy"? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) but later he was the one who felt that way (and I no longer did!)

If you were both single (with no previous marriages which should've/could've been reconciled), and if you were both God-fearing Christians, and if you were obedient, etc. than it wasn't a "mistake."

As for guidelines re: who to marry... the Bible says that we are not to marry unbelievers and we are not to marry someone divorced if the divorce was not Biblical and if that couple still has an opportunity to reconcile.

Marriage experts will also say that we should use wisdom and discretion and that you shouldn't marry someone with addictions or someone with a bad temper or someone who you don't know well, etc.

I don't know if this helps at all.
Why do you feel that you made a mistake?

Thank you for your reply.

I feel it is a mistake because he is not a Christian and I don't know if "we" will ever work in God's plan if he is not a christian.

Talli,
God can redeem "mistakes." He can also use you in your husband's life to draw him to Himself. The Bible gives wives instructions on how to live with a nonbelieving person. It says also that you are not to divorce them but only are to let them go IF they are the ones who want out of the marriage... but not because you are mean to them... but they want out because they want nothing to do with your Christian faith and God.

I guess you will really need to make it a matter of prayer. There are some good books also that might help. There is one for women about being married to an unbeliever but I can't think of the title.

I know it must be hard. I do think maybe I made a mistake marrying my husband. But I was committed to staying married regardless... but he eventually divorced me.

Well, this probably doesn't make you feel much better.

God can meet your needs that your husband is unable to meet. He can provide you with fellowship through a church and He can help you to love your husband despite his disbelief. Pray about it, pray for your husband, and ask God to help you and give you wisdom.

Yes, you made a mistake by marrying a non-Christian but you are now bound by the vows you made before God and man. You are legally and morally married in His eyes. Your mission now is to love your H in a non-judgmental way and win him to the Lord by your good conduct. Pray for him, support him, show unconditional love for him. Follow the example of Jesus. You will be ok if you do the hard work now. We are praying for you and God bless!