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My H seems to be going on, showing no emotion at all. He has only been in his affair for about 8 mos. Is this behavior typical of anyone caught up in the affair? He acts like his family never meant anything to him if he can forget it in just a few months.<P>AD
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The only emotion my stbx has shown is anger towards me. This from a woman who always took the blame for everything. Now she has no signs of guilt or remorse. <BR>I don't get it either.
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Very common...<P>First no emotion...<BR>Now, for me (as with RWD) mostly just anger...<P>See my post from today <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010170.html" TARGET=_blank>Remind me to not LB! Prayers please!</A>... yuck!<P>My W has completely "adopted" OM's family...<BR>Treats OM's kids (from his 1st marriage) better than our kids... and has seen OM's mother 20X as often as her own! It boggles the mind!<P>Hangin' tough through it all...<BR>(don't know how long... "Chris"-like is almost "Christ"-like... Wow!)<P>Jim
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My H shows no emotion towards me at all. He shows a little bit towards son. All he seems to want is to avoid me.<P>------------------<BR>joanne<BR>
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My wife is the same. She calls about once a week to talk to the kids. I get to talk to her about every three weeks. It's just chit-chat with me. No anger. She did say we should talk about divorce once saying, "don't you think it's the best thing?" I let into her & told her, "ABSOLUTELY NOT!" That was early September. She hasn't mentioned it since.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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My W's been living with OM for about a year now.She never calls,or writes,or asks about my family.It's amazing how they can just erase their past.I'll never understand.
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My thoughts are that it's easier for them to forget & move on than to deal with what they've done, easier than trying to make things right again and working on the real problems. I have just broken off an affair (5 days no contact so far), and part of me says "Things are so good with OM, why should I take the time to try and fix a marriage that may not be fixable?" However, I know this is just avoidance and hopefully with that knowledge I will have the strength to keep trying rather than running away.THose who run without even trying are hurting themselves whether they see it right away or not.
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