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Okay betrayed. Does your S talk when in his/her sleep? Do you find that your start wondering what it is that they're dreaming about... and seemingly enjoying? Is it the OP? <P>I've heard bits of conversation, laughter, orgasmic moans -- you name it. It makes me wonder if I'm being too sensitive and preoccupied with the fact that our rebuilding is going nowhere. Am I imagining that she's dreaming of the OM? I just don't remember these "events" (talking in sleep) before.<P>P.S. I know I slept better before she had the affair. Perhaps I just wasn't awake to know it?<P>--keystone
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keystone -- First let me tell you that what I am about to offer is a very stern warning.<P>DO NOT take what she says or does in her sleep for anything other than a dream. A few months ago, my W called me by another mans name in her sleep. I thought I was going to die.<P>With the help of several very caring people here, my W and I were able to understand that this was JUST A DREAM. If you try and read anything else into it, you are setting yourself up for what may be totally unnecessary pain.<P>Just my 2 cents worth. . . <P>God Bless
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keystone -- OK, I went back and looked up the post I was telling you about. The post was last modified on August 19th, and the name of the thread was <B>There is NO WAY I can compare!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</B>. Just to a search on my name, and you will find a link to the thread if you want to read what happened with us.<P>God Bless
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Keystone,<BR>With my W's earlier affairs, she would have dreams about work as well as dreams about OM. She even had dreams about us to include our boys. I personally think dreams are what the subconscious mind is focusing on at the time. Those ideas have to surface one way or the other: during the waking moments or in our dreams.<P>However, it will eventually subside when things start to get better. Because she hasn't slept in our bed since May 30, 1999, I don't know if she talks in her sleep any more. She doesn't tell me when she has dreams like she used to. I don't worry about it much. I pray hard that God will make some change in me that will allow her to see Him.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>
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One night, I heard my H talking in his sleep -- or thought I did. I distinctly heard him say, "Can't wait to see you....bye bye" -- as if he was talking on the phone.<P>I was groggy, but I remember thinking, "Listen...this may tell you what you need to know."<P>My H never talks in his sleep -- ever.<P>I was devastated. But you know what? I think I was dreaming it too...that I wasn't really awake after all.
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I called my husband at work, because he left so early and didn't say goodbye.... So I called to say hello.<P>He said when he left I was fast away in snoozville. He said I was talking in my sleep.<P>Then he said that I was saying "Mommy" - in a little girls voice. He said I do this almost every night. <P>I have no idea what I'm dreaming!!!!<P>So, don't put any importance on the talking in the sleep. <P>
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