I feel like we are making some progress the last couple of weeks and it feels like she might want to come home and than i find out she lied to me last night to see OM. Why lie when last week she told me she wouldn't lie to me anymore about seeing him, yes it would of hurt cause i asked her to go out with me and the kids but i would have took it, now i'm just mad. I saw her for a little while, I was very pleasant and didn't LB. She talked about things she wants to do to the house which is positive and was nice to me and we talked a lot about non threatning things. She even brought OM up and i just kept i calm deamenor and listened. Is she testing me? This is going to be a hard weekend cause if she doesn't want to go out with me it is going to kill me, 8 years ago on the 14th is the first time i said I LOve you. And if she doesn't show anything towards me it is going to really hit my lovebank hard.

Those dates reminders are the worst...<P>I kissed my W for the first time on my birthday...<BR>...now my birthday is that much harder for me.<P>You <B>can</B> ask your W not to talk about the OM... it is <B>not</B> a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Buster</A>... it is "honesty"... when said gently and lovingly!<P>Jim