It turns out that W had this year's version of influenza. She was feeling so bad that I delayed my flight east from 7am to 7pm. I ended up coming down with it too. So it's been the two of us sick. Luckily, I didn't get it quite as bad, so I have still been able to take care of her. On Saturday, she was so ill she could hardly move, but as soon as I left the house to run errands for her, she called OM. Today, I went out to do the same and she called him again. I can't help feeling betrayed each time this happens. I have spent so much time and energy trying to take care of her while she's ill.<P>I'm at the point, I want to just tell her to leave now. I am assuming she still plans to buy a place and move out like before, so I think it would be best if she just moved out now(as soon as she's better) while looking for a place. She would say she didn't have anywhere to go, but she could stay with OM. He would be glad to have her. The way I feel right now, he can have her with my complements(or condolences).<P>What a bummer!!!

Oh Heartpain - I'm sorry...<P>They're such sneaky pete's while they're doing this......UGH!!!!<P>Makes you just want to give her medicine by suppository with the aid of your foot!!!!<P>I don't know what to tell you...it's not OK that this guy is in her life!! He is not just a friend and she can pretend all she wants.....<P>Counselor should be working on her honesty problems instead of the crap she handed you about the phone call etc...sounds like she's not very good at her job - especially being that she was counseling her for a while ..... time to point these things out to this counselor do you suppose?<P>I would and I would also talk with your therapist about it too!!!<P>HUGS and I hope you feel better,<P>Sheba

Thanks, Sheba....<BR>The interesting thing is that I had a phone mail at the office from Monday from her therapist. She said that W told her on Friday that I was rather displeased about the conversation she(therapist) and I had last week. She also noted that if I still wanted a session alone with her, that I should let her know and also <B>give her the phone number of my therapist so she can talk to her before the session</B>.<P>Interesting, huh????<p>[This message has been edited by Heartpain (edited November 30, 1999).]

How you guys feeling now, heartpain?<P>Better, I hope! <P>~Sheryl<P>------------------<BR>Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you are among the stars!!

nb -- We are recovering nicely, now. W just left for work. Dr told her not to return before tomorrow, but I guess the pull of OM was just too strong. Thanks for the "smiley"....<P>Sheba --<BR>I guess I will try to set something up with her therapist, but it's not going to be to deal with W and I. I've given that up. You are certainly right. W needs to deal with her honesty problem. She fails to recognize how this deceit and dishonesty affect me. I told her last night that I couldn't treat her always as nicely as OM, simply because he hadn't been screwed over by her, both figuratively and literally.<P>Her therapist has bought in to everything W has told her. Including her "revisionist" history of our marriage. It's amazing how terrible it became after OM arrived on the scene.