Thanks for everyone's quick respones. My wife has agreed to stop all contact with OM. Please keep us in your prayers.<p>[This message has been edited by Ted (edited February 15, 2000).]

Ted,<P>It is recommended that all contact be eliminated from the betrayer and their affair partner. For one reason, to give you peace of mind and allow you to be able to trust again.<P>Also, your W needs to go through withdrawal and get over this OM. That will be hard to do when they have contact. She should be willing to give him up completely for your recovery to work. There is a good chance the affair could start up again when that communication begins again.<P>You should read the MB site and familiarize yourself with all the information. Are you two in counseling? That is important also.<P>Good luck.

Ted, <P>Just noticed this is your first post. Welcome!!! You will find a lot of helpful people here who you will come to know on a very helpful and supporting level. <P>I have been here for only 10 days and I can't get through my day without visiting a more than once. Read other peoples posts and you will start to learn much more than you ever imagined. <P>Good luck and god bless/<P>

Welcome <B>Ted</B>...<P>I have a post of general welcome post I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P>For some clarity... a short time ago the "main" forum was divided into 4 separate "sub" forums...<BR>Staying in the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=General+Questions&number=28&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>General Questions</A> forum will give you the most responses! <P>Read the above post first.<P>Do start with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>! There is little that you can make her do... There is a lot for you to do!<P>Best Wishes... <P>Jim

Hi Jim,<P>I'm relatively new too. My H had an affair in May of 1999 that continues to this day. Everyone understands exactly how you feel. It is necessary that your W gives up the OM for your marriage to work, but there are people here who will help you deal with your pain regardless of what happens. Keep your chin up.<P>Blessed be.<P><P>------------------<BR>Keridwen