Hi everyone This is kinda long but need your input PLEASE <P>We bought our home 2 years ago with a BARN/Office in effort to spend more time w/eachother by having his bus. @ home. Our marriage was on the rocks and needed the personal time.<BR>We were turned down for a permit permit to "legitimately" run his business this REALLY threw him for a loop mentally//Pushed him into Midlife Crisis Mode even more and I didn't handle him well at all. <P>He has been operating in a low key (not much profit) for 2 years. But I had become suspcious that he was using this permit issue as an excuse to continue seeing OW(I am still looking for that proof). No work but have time to playraround. Well last month I asked him what he need start planing for the repermit process. Short answer was he blew a gasket and said what is he to do if he doesn't get the permit? He started throwing things // 2nd time in 15 years. I of course backed off. He knows how to push my buttons<BR>I DO NOT LIKE BEING THE SOLE BREADWINNER. Not when no one here in town really cares if he has a permit or not AND when H IS SO TALENTED at what he does. Plus he has a friend here in town who is (self)-un-employed drunk. They have gone out during the day got a buzz on while I work. <P>I am sick of feeling rightfully suspicious and holding it in AND feeling like I am being taken advantage of. How can I change this situation... w/o negatively coming down on him and throwing LOVE Busters at him. Plus I feel llike telling him to change back to himself or hit the road. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!<P><BR>I have told