Hi All,<P>As alot of you know I've written a plan-b letter...See plan-a/b board.<P>My original intent was to deliver it on tuesday...I am 90% certain I am going to have itr delivered tonight...<P>My reasons are simple...I honestly doubt she will come around by tues day...I had another negative experience seeing her today, I committed no lovebusters...and I am really starting to feel my feelings wain...<P>I ask those who will to pray for my wife and myself...I have sought the lord today and asked him what his will in this is...I have thought this through...I am not doing this based solely on emotions...I just am no longer willing to sit here and do nothing but wait...I have executed a nearly flawless plan-a...I feel it is time to do something proactive in my situation...In essence I'm taking my life back...No longer will I be held hostage by my emotions...<P>Any input or opinions are accepted with grattitude...Please pray for us...I know I have done everything possible...The feelinge I feel now are hard to describe...I feel fear...anxiety...impending relief...empathy...sorrow...joy...weakness, and some anger...It's been 3 months comming now...and now that it's here I feel a slight hesitation...I don't want to do this...I have to...<P>I love each and everyone of you...<BR>Thank you,<P>Bill <P>"Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed." Proverbs 16:3<P><BR>------------------<BR>BB<BR><p>[This message has been edited by WilliamJ (edited February 13, 2000).]

Hi Bill,<P>My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are doing what you have to do. It's going to be scary because you are venturing into unknown territory. But, rest assured, you ARE doing the right thing. Sometimes, the right things are the hardest to do. I think delivering the letter tonight is a very wise idea. If nothing else, why forever tarnish your future Valentine's Days?? They will become constant reminders of "the letter".<P>What you are doing can be described in another way. Some refer to it as "tough love". I recently had a conversation the other day with a guy at work who went through something similar. For him, it dragged out a very long time, and when his wife finally came around, he had lost all love for her. He said he just couldn't go back. His exact words were, "if I'd have done the tough love sooner, we might have been able to reconcile".<P>So, even though it is hard, and you are doing it to take back your life, the better reason is that it is the only way your marriage might have a chance.<P>Be strong. We are all behind you.

Bill...<P>I love you man... <P>You know one or two days isn't going to make that much of difference...<P>A day before or after or on Valentine's Day itself isn't going to make a difference...<P>Go with your feelings...<BR>...I think God spoke to you today...<P>Yes... of course you can start today.<P><B>But most of all</B>... know we'll be here when it gets tough... and when the temptation for contact is too great.<P>The first few weeks are the hardest...<BR>...much like the withdrawal from a drug or alcohol... and over time your feelings will subside. I remember with vividly with Paul (Moyers.) He posted every few hours almost!<P>Like I say on the welcome post...<BR><B>we're here for you</B>... <P>Love to you... a very hard and stressful day.<BR>I'm prayering for you and Robin! <P>Your brother...<P>Jim

Sydney,Jim,<P>Thanks...I wish I could say more right now..<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

(((((((((((((William))))))))))))))<P><BR>"Walk into splintered sunlight<BR>Inch your way through dead dreams to another land<P>Maybe you're tired and broken<BR>Your tongue is twisted with words half spoken and thoughts unclear<P>What do you want me to do <BR>to do for you, to see you through<P>A box of rain will ease the pain and love will see you through"<P><BR>my friend, here is a box of rain for you...<P>you can't see it because I'm sending it psychically (sp?) (remember broke-down palace and the pooh bear shirt???..don't doubt me...)<P>in it are my prayers for you and Robin...<P><BR>Dylan<P>

Thanks D,<P>Love ya,<P>Bill

Bill,<P>You know I'm in your corner. I'm here alao whenever you need me. I know its been a rough road for you.<P><B>No longer will I be held hostage by my emotions...</B><P>I couldn't agree with you more. I'm praying for you and Robin. <P>You are a wise and STRONG man. You can do this!!<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

Bill,<P>My prayers will be with you . I can't imagine going to Plan B. But someday I must face it to. I will keep you in prayers. Dana<BR>

Jamie-Lee, Dana,<P>Thanks for the prayers...keep 'em comming<P>Bill

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Bill}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Follow your heart. We're behind you.<P>Lori

Bill,<P>I know how hard this is for you. I wish I had had the strength that you are exhibiting, I should have stuck with my <BR>Plan B until he gave up the OW, but I was weak. I also didn't have this forum to come to. My best to you and my prayers....

Bill,<BR>My prayers are with you too! You are strong in the Lord and he will be there to support you along with everyone here.<P>Be confident in yourself.<P>Love and God's Blessing to you!<P>Bob

Bill,<P>You know that I pray for you, Robin and Abbey every day. If your feelings are going, it is time.<P>I really can identify with the crazy jumble of feelings you are felling right now. But, I promise you by next week you will be feeling so much better!!!!<P>PlanB really takes the pressure off you. I know thatis hard to believe righ this moment when you feel the pressure of the world on your shoulders. But, it WILL help you.<P>You never know...tough love as sidney says...this might be Robin's wake up call!!!!!!!!!<P>Sending hugs and love to you all.....<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BILL}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

WilliamJ -- My thoughs and prayers go with you as you finalize this descision. Remember that we are all here for you.<P>God Bless

Bill,<P>What 2 say???<P>Come down & have a toast w/me while we talk about them...<P>Really... don't know what to say... 13th, 14th, 15th... it's all the same as long as you are convinced of what you are doing...<P>Alex<P>PS: I know you don't drink, so I'll buy you some Dr. Pepper (yuk!!)<P>------------------<BR>Live and learn (but when?)<p>[This message has been edited by ThisAlex (edited February 13, 2000).]

Hey Bill,<P>Desiree is absolutely right. It's hard to implement, but, once in force it does take the edge off. I haven't spoken to Val in almost a month now. I think it's like 27 or 28 days. I'm doing pretty well. Don't think of her as much as I did when we still maintained contact.<P>You saw the card she sent. It might just be working. Now Brian has to fulfill all her emotional needs. I don't think he can do it. The last years of the marriage were not that good, I will readily admit, but she does love me. He may have her body, I still have her heart. It's in the top drawer next to my underwear.<P>It's a big step, Pal. I believe it's our only hope.<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Tim