Hi.<P> I have posted on here before, but under a different name. My w has been having an internet affair for the last year, which turned physical about 6-7 months ago. I started counseling and did a "fair" Plan A, but eventually she decided to get away to have time for herself (with the OM, of course-across the country). When she left, I did a "modified" Plan A, where I responded to any contact from her, but I did not iniate any, except concerning our child. Before she left I heard all of the things that our betraying spouses say, including "love you but not in love with you" and "never should have gotten married", ect.<BR> Well, the reason I write this is that now she has come home and wants to really work on us with the om totally out of the picture. She previously never wanted to do this. In fact, she has started being the person I fell in love with once again. I know that I have a long way to go on this journey and that there are many rollercoaster rides ahead, but I feel that I have turned a big corner. Only a short time ago, I felt that my marriage was over and now there is hope. I hope that this gives some much needed boosting to those of you whose spouses have left for the OP. Things do change and if you stay the course miracles can and will happen!<P>Mat

Matt,<P>Hurray for you!! <P>That is great! Thank you for sharing and inspiring us all! <P>Can I ask, how long were you seperated. Please tell me not long, I don't want to think it ALWAYS has to be 2 years!!<P>I am so happy to hear some good news on valentines day today.<P>

Lonelymom,<P> Discovered late summer. Separated since first of the year (appx. 6 weeks).<P>Mat