Hi All,<P>So far so good for me...No changes in my W...She is however very confysed about the paying the bills thing...I have done it for years, and she is very confused...She refuses to relent and think about reconciliation...My gut tells me her stubbornness is going to keep her from doing so...I hope not, but that seems to be the case...<P>As for me...Day one was ok day two, I was totally blindsided by resentment...An all consuming resentment, one I couldn't shake until last night...So far she hasn't tried to call me directly, and I haven't called her...<P>I just hope she quits eating those stupid pills and comes to her senses...Not much else to say other than this morning I feel pretty good.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Bill,<P>I'm saying a prayer for you...<P>There will be some ups and downs ahead...<BR>...even in Plan B.<P>I'm sure you will handle them.<P>Pray maybe a little more often during those hard times.... it will get you through them a little easier. <P>Jim

at 5:30am?.... and your feeling pretty good?... woa, you must have some pretty good coffee down there... <P>Seriously though, I for one am pretty proud of you, and am offering you prayers this morning.<P>Stregnth to you my friend, and patience, and happiness.<P>Deut

Bill,<P>It will be hard, expect the following:<P>The first couple of weeks you feel good, knowing in your mind you are doing "something". In your mind you will be waiting for her call, and you know you will feel great when it happens.<P>Then, one of two things will happen. She will either call after a few weeks (months?) or she will not. <BR> <BR>Here is what happened to me:<P>After a month, she still had not called. Even though I felt pretty good for those four weeks, the reality of her not needing me sunk in. I felt worse then ever.<P>I started felling that I had no control over some other guy taking my love. I felt helpless, and really sank into depression.<P>I don't think she ever would have called, but I sent her a flower for V day and then she called. (Breaking all of the Plan B rules)<P>We talked about the problems we had in the realtionship and somehow it made me feel better. It hurts that she is working on making her new realtionship better based on our experience, and that she had all these issues that she never discussed with me until she found someone new. She spoke of everything in the past tense, and I think she felt my rose was "peace offering", not a romantic gesture. <P>I am now starting to fell resentfull again, based on her inability to work on things, and her "lining up" someone new prior to even discussing our problems. I am starting to miss her less however, and thinking about dating again.<P>Oh well, thats how things worked for me, and where I am at. I guess the only real advice I can give is that Jim is right. Even with "no contact" it will be a roller coaster ride of feelings.<P>Good Luck, Pal <p>[This message has been edited by Jersey Joe (edited February 16, 2000).]

<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BILL}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}Prayers to you!!<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Bill,<P>Hang in there! You are in my thoughts and prayers.<P>Bob

Bill,<P>Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and your lovely and am keeping you both in my prayers. I have been considering planB to see if that wakes H up any. Guess it is kind of that ole saying that if you let it go and it comes back it is yours, but if you let it go and it never returns it was never yours to begin with. Something like that. <P>I wish you all the best in this new plan and I hope and pray you make it through no matter what the results. Just wanted to let you know I didn't drop off the earth. Too much happening and too little mind left.

Bill,<P>The first week or two are very tough. The overwhelming resentment is completely normal, and that's why it's essential that you avoid contact with your wife. You're primed to be a lovebusting fiend---avoid it at all costs.<P>It does get better.

Bill,<P>I'm happy to hear that you are doing okay. Plan B is very hard and you seem to be doing well. I'm continuing to keep you in my prayers!!<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

Jim,<BR>I've got holes worn in my pant knees...Thanks for your prayer<P>Deut:<BR>Yes 5:30 am...I grind my own breans..I prefer Sumatra beans...I try to get a few things done in the am...thanks for your encouragement<P>JJ,<BR>I'm still at a place to where what she does doesn't matter...I honestly don't want to talk to her right now...As far as depression..I'm doing things to eleviate it...Exercise..healthy diet..Wellbutrin..Talking to those people that are in my inner circle..<P>Patient Love, Thanks for the hug and prayers,<P>RWD,<BR>I'm hangin in...no longer hanging on...lol<P>D2,<BR>Thanks for remembering my lovely...I'm familiar with that ole saying...We shall see if she can get through her pride..<P>K,<BR>So far the resntment hasn't been that overwhelming...it just blingsided me yesterday, and I couldn't shake it...Today on my way home for lunch I realised it was the first time I thought of her today...As far as contact, my resolve is firm...In fact I don't want to see or talk to her...I may have more questions as time goes by...<P><BR>Jamie-Lee,<BR>Thank you for you kind words also...I realy think I was ready for this, because it hasn't been real difficult so far...<P>Day four was by far easier....<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>