Hi,<P>Don't go away. Many here know about pain caused by their spouses when they have cheated. I also know about the confusion added when one's W has an affair with OW. Maybe you can save your marriage, maybe you can't, but trust me that although our situations are not easy to handle by many, most of the information provided by this site could be applied, if for anything else to at least ease the pain and feel more comfortable with any decision you may take.<P>I too, knew about my W's bisexuality prior to our marriage. When she told me we were talking about each other's past & I never though it would be part of our PRESENT at any time. Trying to rekindle the old relationship (as it was-100%) it's a tough call because like hanora once told me "I don't have the right equipment", neither do you. But if there is enough love and support you may reach an arrangement (whatever works for both of you) to save your marriage and TRUST.<P>Hang in, jp<P>Alex<P>PS: One more thing: I find it interesting that you both talked about her needs prior to the affair or soon after it began (is this how it happened?). In my case she told me 2 weeks after it started; I was wondering how could she hide it for so long; when later I found out that there are people who manage to lie about their affairs for years it actually made me feel (sort of) proud of my W and it gave me some hope.<P>------------------<BR><B>Live fully and always learn</B><p>[This message has been edited by ThisAlex (edited February 16, 2000).]