She left 17 Feb 99. Seems like a million years, seems like yesterday.<P>I've been feeling okay, but tonight I watched ER. Boo hoo!<P>My Wife has not shown any signs of anything. She didn't send her Mom anything or call for her b'day.My goal is to wait 'till Christmas. I'm gonna schedule up an appt with Steve Harley sometime in the next few weeks.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Chris sending you lots of {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and prayers. I cried too when I watched ER How could they. I am coming up on the one year since discovery in one month. Just before my son's birthday. He said it has ruined all his birthdays. Again Lots of hugs You are doing good.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Chris, you a man of highest virtue. Your wife and especially those precious girls of yours are blessed to have you in their life.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Hi Chris,<P>It seems we are all different, but not all that different, well with the exception of me. I am only 24 days behind you. Val was "asked to leave" March 13 after discovery.<P>I'm getting stronger and played ER tonight.<P>God bless you if you have the strenght to hold out until Christmas. I can't and won't hold out much longer.<P>Today, well, yesterday was a good day for me. A social worker that has caught my eye was flirting up a storm this morning. Everytime we are on her "floor" she comes over to chat if it's her patient or not. She calls us for all her transfer patients. They have a contract with a competeing service.<P>About an hour ago we had an emergency out of a rehab hospital and a nurse came up to me and got mad because I didn't remember her or her name from years gone by. Hey, she cut her hair, I haven't seen her in years and I'm really tired. She said she would call me to catch up on stuff.<P>I can certainly see the nice and warm feeling of having someone give you some attention and the time of day. <P>I'm not about to break my wedding vows. I am still legally and moraly married to Val. I would like nothing more than if she would give us a chance.<P>It's just nice to have others appreciate your existance. My outgoing personality and odd sense of humor gets me far.<P>I'm rambling again.<P>Chris, I have said this before and mean it. If anyone here deserves happiness, it is you. You have been the rock. I don't think I would have made it this far without you, and many of the other veterans. I was ready to give up long ago. Your steadfast belief has been an inspiration to me and many others.<P>Take care, God bless.<P>Tim... sorry for babbling, going night, night

Chris,<BR>nothing special to say I'm afraid, just that I'm thinking of you.<BR>Big Hug<BR>Kat

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Thoughts & Prayers Always,<BR>B<BR><P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Chris, as always, I'm thinking of you and the girls. Stay strong and take care of yourself.

Chris, <BR>You have hung on.....you are a true inspiration to us all.....I hope the next year gives you the happiness you deserve. This state of limbo is so difficult! <P>------------------<BR>Susan<P><BR>

Chris,<P>Don't you hate anniversaries of this type!?!?! <P>I don't know how Donna gets up and looks in the mirror each day knowing her girls live elsewhere and she is responsible for all this pain and havoc in their lives and yours.<P>Coninued prayers for you and the girls......<P>Roll Me Away<P><P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

{{{{{{{{{{<B>Chris</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>My mentor...<P>for me it's been 5 months 20 days since my W left...<BR>...it's sad I still count... <P>...and my court date (1 day after the 6 month mark) I'll have to call Steve too...<BR>...the divorce stuff really s**ks...<P>...after 2 years (in this upcoming December) for you (since your D-day) I'm sure Steve H. will make your coming to an end of Plan A...Plan B... a bit easier...<P>You're a good man...<BR>...you know it too... God loves you! <P>Prayers my friend... to you and your beautiful girls... <P>Jim

{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}<BR>This must be a hard thing to face. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Chris,<BR>Yes, ER got to me last night too,,,,,my favorite show except for tonight!!!! I'll get better when I see LUCY on another show sometime and see that she is OK!<BR>I've been holding back telling you this, I think about it every time I see your posts........My H and I have friends from College (married 25 years), The wife left with this scum for three years.....her H waited.....and waited............She finally came home, and they have built a new life. Course the H is still feeling the pain that it happened, but they are back into full swing together. There were no children in this marriage so she didn't even have that extra pull. You do! Heyyyyyyyyyy buddy, It could happen!!!! AND BY THE WAY.......My H's bad Brain Period.....enen though we weren't apart, lasted three years (with out me knowing)........then he tired of it and came back to me totally......... <P>Like others have said.......they soon, sometimes not so soon........tire of this, or tire of them. You are giving her great gifts......patience, time and yourself.<BR>(((((((((HUGS)))))))))<P>Almost Happy<P>-------<BR>TIME <P><p>[This message has been edited by Almost Happy (edited February 18, 2000).]

Chris<BR>Don't know if you are awake. <BR>Have a funny feeling you might be.<BR>I just wanted you to know you have been in my thoughts and prayers this last few months especially.<BR>We have some pretty ugly anniversaries in common. I often think of that.<BR>Take care of yourself huh?<BR>That was my mother voice. <P>I'm sitting here alone at the computer with my H off on his "holiday". Wondering if I really got anywhere. I guess it's all in the perspective. At least we know we are survivors. One way or another!<BR>You are a survivor you know. <BR>You're right though - seems like a million years, seems like yesterday....<BR><p>[This message has been edited by wasstubborn (edited February 19, 2000).]

course I'm awake. Thanks for the prayers. Back at 'ya as you know.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR><P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I believe in miracles...<P><BR>

Almost Happy...<BR>D'you think you could get your friends to visit us here at MB? Wow! What an incredibly inspiring little story - 3 years?<BR>Just proves that statistics are right - most of them either come back, or, when it's too late to do so, wish they had come back...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I believe in miracles...<P><BR>

Terri,<BR>Yes, a wonderful ending. No, can't get them to come here because they don't know what happened to my H and I. I don't plan on telling them, especially when we are OK now.<P>Almost Happy<P>-------<BR>TIME

Chris -- I understand all too well how these "anniversaries" can affect us. I just posted my own thread on this same subject <P>Chris, You are very great man. An inspiration to all men. Your girls are lucky to have such a wonderful father.<P>You are and will be in my thoughts and prayers.<P>God Bless<BR>

Chris,<P>I have learned so much from you and your posts. I have the utmost respect for you, and whether you asked for it or not, I consider you our leader (us betrayed men, still holding out hope). Your conviction, patience, and awesome father figureness (is that a word ? are great assets for all of us to strive towards. Thanks

Chris,<BR> My W has been gone over a year,too(what did she look like?)Valentine Day was a bummer,too,huh? Do you think Steve Harley can possibly help at this point?Just wonder what he can tell you to do,now.Take care of yourself. --Murph