When does this end??? Well, last night the h came home and said he is not moving in with the ow, he staying in a spare broom. He slept there, he doesn't want to sleep with me cuz something will happen. He just came home said he was going to a BBQ and left. This is KILLING me. I just said ok, see ya. WHAT DO I DO????? Do I just keep my mouth shut???? My kids aren't here so I don't have to explain to them. 3 weeks ago, we never did anything without one another and now I AM LONELY AS HELL!!!! I just don't know what to do, what to say. Last night he said he needs time to sort things out. Has anybody gone through this?? What did you do?? He asked what I was doing later, I said nothing. I am meeting a friend, i've got to talk to someone! I don't want him to think that I am sitting here all night, by myself, but I don't feel I need to tell him where I am going either LB???? Please someone help me. I feel so lonely! I almost wanted him to move in with her cuz then I was going to have no contact with him what so ever. Do I make a home for him here? Do I go on with my life like hes not here? Do I talk to him about my day, tell him about mine? WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Troublec,<BR>I know what you are going through. My W tolld me that we can only be friends. She has been sleeping on the couch since Aug 99. I get no hugs, no I love you's. I don't like the just wanting to be friends thing because she wants me to do all those things that a H is supposed to do except be intimate.<P>I am going along with the plan because our boys want us to stay together as I do. But, it hurts that she is treating me badly because she was hurt by OM #8 in 7+years.<P>Your situation sounds much better than mine. MONDO HUG!!!! I truly feel your pain.<P>I also still love her very much because she is God's gift to me. She reminds me of Gomer, Hosea's wife in the book Hosea.<P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net <p>[This message has been edited by professorg (edited February 18, 2000).]

I know your hurt well my H sleeps in our bed but i'm not allowed to touch him, he says I'm attacking him if i do what i've done for 20 years. He admits to beig in love with OW and this pain is unreal, the only thing I can tell you is pray.

We tried separate bedrooms, he felt he was not responsible for telling me where he was going, relunctantly told me when he was going out. I hated it. He showed me so much disrespect--after all, I was still cooking, cleaning, being a wife, etc. I think for us, I prefer that he moves all the way out, as he is now. You don't have the lies and infidelity right in your face all the time...however you do lose some of the time where you can diligently Plan A. But in retrospect, it was worth a try in our 7 separations, I just wouldn't do it again.