<BR>He did not come home last night. My heart is in my feet again, I know where he was and who he was with, I'venot seen him in 24 hours and not heard from him in 12, I'm a mess please somene tell me what to do?

((((((((((((Regina))))))))))))<P>only you can tell you what to do....<P>if you are afraid that when he comes home you will LB all over him, then perhaps you should go out...see a friend or relative....don't be home whn he gets there.....or, be baking cookies and smile alot...I just don't know how to help you....<P>I have never had to deal with a spouse not coming home at night....<P>you could also try something I have heard on this board before....about asking him nicely and politely to keep you informed when he won't be home, so that you do not lose sleep worrying if he is alright...I know, it involves ALOT of tongue biting not to yell and scream...but, if you are in a serious Plan A, it may be the only thing to do...<P>it all depends on what you can take and put up with.....<P>remember, the point of Plan A-ing the one you love is to make posiive changes within you and to give them a 'safe' environment to come home to....if there is peace and love, they won't feel they have to go elsewhere for it...(although this can take time...but what marriage is not worth a little time and work)<P>I can't know how you feel, I can only imagine the worry and the despair....<P>give yourself a big hug, and call a friend ....vent to someone else other than him...<P>Dylan

thanx dylan

Dylan has made some good suggestions . This Plan A is tough because it still feels that trying to save the marriage takes away a big part of our own self respect at times. It feels awful to wait all night for H to come home, been there, done that, its hard with him gone now, but the waiting is over. Try not to LB is all I can say. Be strong. Prayers are with you. Dana