Well,H is still pursuing his affair.At the moment he is visiting her (pretending it is a buisiness trip).I am just too exhausted by this situation and agonizing over his whereabouts.Discovery was last October,and he made it clear then that he wasn't going to give her up .is it too unreasonable to start thinking about the next step?This waiting is driving me nuts.I thought I was stronger but I guess I am not.I have lived in hope that OW will break down first as the result of such an abnormal relationship(He sees her every 3 weeks for 2 days,the rest is cell phone calls)I suppose she is hedging her bets that I'll do the same.I am torn for my love for him and my anger and resentment at the way he is treating me.Should I let him know of my growing anger?Or is that lovebusting?

nabilqad<P>The best thing you have going for you right now is that your H is still living with YOU. He is there for a reason. If he really wanted her he would be gone. Hold on to that and build on it.<P>You have only known of his affair for a few months. I know you're exhausted, I am too. But if you want your H back you can't give up. Do you still want him? Enough to endure all of this and more down the road? Only you know the answer to that question.<P>Don't let your anger get the best of you.<P>Yes, she is most likely waiting in the wings like a parasite, waiting to attach to her her prey. Just waiting for you to send him over the edge with LB's.<P>Don't Do It!<P>Swallow your pride if you can.<P>Bury that anger or vent it here.<P>Keep on plan A for as long as you can.<P>I'm sure his mistress is making life seem to be with her, even for the two days he sees her a month, heaven on earth. If you expolde it will just make being with you less than desireable. Give it all you've got. Be the OW. Or actually be you and use OW type tactics.<P>Good Luck!<P>Fingers Crossed<P>