Anyone else have this problem? I have a great <BR>supervisor who just so happens had an affair years ago and understands, but for the past <BR>3-4 months my mind is out in space....my work product is about as low as it can get and still be employed! I am in mo 5 of recovery and besides my Triggers post this is another area having great difficulty in. tips ? helps anyone? <P>------------------<BR>jnvc

When I found out about my H and the O/W i could hardly cope, much less work. It was a good think I was a stay at home mom because I was sick to my stomach, I could not concentrate on anything, I could barely take care of the kids, I cried all the time ect.<P>I have been going to a therapist the whole time. It has been a trip. I did not know what to do about my future. Then I thought I wish I had a job then at least I would have a direction.<P>I am now substitute teaching and loving it. It has been 4 and 1/2 months since discovery. I am moving on for me and my kids. My H did come home 3 weeks ago today. So who knows we may make it, but I am not counting on it yet.<P>Hang it there time does help. Make some goals for yourself. I know that is hard, because you just want to concentrate on him, but remember he is not concentrating his whole time on you. I know it is hard to focus on us for a change. But I have joined a gym, lost 25 pounds and am starting to feel good about myself for myself.<P>I am glad that you have a great boss, because I know that I would have been fired if I worked when this happened to me. I was broken.<P>hang in there...