I'm sending a card to my Wife;<P>Thinking of you,<P>Hope knowing you're thought of,<BR>In a very special way.<BR>Will add an extra little bit<BR>Of sunshine to your day!<P>I bought some little plastic cards you put in your wallet. Which one do you think will have the most/best impact?<P><B>1</B><BR>When you get a case of lonelies and you think nobody's there<BR>To love, support and listen or to show they even care.<BR>Just reach into your pocket and pull out this little card.<BR>(Nothing could be easier when your life seems really hard)<BR>And every time you read it, it will help remind you too.<BR>A very special part of me is always there with you.<P><B>2</B><BR>These I Can Promise<BR>I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;<BR>I cannot promise you riches, wealth or gold;<BR>I cannot promise you an easy pathway<BR>That leads away from change or growing old.<BR>But I can promise all my heart's devotion,<BR>A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow,<BR>A love that's ever true and ever growing,<BR>A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.<P><B>3</B><BR>You'll always have a place in my heart..<BR>(insert picture of two little bunnies)<BR>...'cause that's where I keep my valuables!<P><B>4</B><BR>Nothing Will Change My Love For You<BR>Leaves may change from green to gold,<BR>the sky from blue to gray,<BR>A summer's afternoon becomes a sparkling winter day<BR>People change and places change and times keep changing too<BR>But one thing always stays the same<BR>the love I feel for you.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

I like 1 the best, followed by 2. I'd be careful with both 2 and 4 because they talk about "love that is forever", and she may feel guilty because that's not what she's had for you.

Hey Chris,<P>I'd send the nice card and pass on the wallet jobbies. I think it might be just too much. JMHO.<P><P>------------------<BR>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic<P><BR>

K, Yeah I thought about the "love lasting forever" too. If she doesn't return it won't last forever.<P>Medic, What's she gonna do? Leave me? LOL<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

number 3 would be my choice. One is too cutesy, 2 and 4 too heavy. <BR>Nice cards chris!

I vote for #1.

Chris,<P>If I was your wife, and feeling extremely guilty for leaving my husband and children, every little thing that reminded me of my guilt would make it that much harder to face reality.<P>For what it's worth, I think you are hoping for some kind of response, and will be disappointed yet again if she doesn't acknowledge your efforts.<P>If I were you, I would have a picture taken of you and the girls, and the dog and cat, or whatever constitutes your "family"... make sure you all look into the camera so that when she looks at the picture she's looking into your eyes. Get a blank card and personally write from your heart how you feel, and wish her well, or whatever gets across the message you want her to hear... enclose the "family" picture and then don't send her anything else. Take it from someone whose been trying to win back her husbands' love for longer than I can remember, at some point you have to quit trying in the name of self-preservation, and leave the next move up to them.<P>As the saying goes, if you love something set it free...<P>Don't mean to be a party-pooper, just afraid you are setting yourself up for disappointment... you deserve better.

I like 1. It is "cute" but it carries a lot of meaning without being needy-sounding. Are you copyrighting these? I'd like to copy you and make one for my husband.

Chris - I think YY has the best suggestion, something truly personal. Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex

Patience,<BR> I'd like to copy Chris, too, and stick the copy on the front of my H. <P><BR>Sorry, couldn't resist!!

Chris,<P>I thought I'd throw in my 2 cents.<P>I really have to agree with <B>yy</B> and <B>Wex</B> on this one...<P><B>K</B> has been hitting the nail on the head for me... maybe a little for you too...<P>I'd ask that you check out the replies on the 2nd page of my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010170-2.html" TARGET=_blank>Remind me to not LB! Prayers please!</A>... in particular <B>K</B>'s and <B>Paul</B>'s... as well as my last reply...<BR>(The background of my LB is different... but LB is LB just the same)<P>I'm not telling you to stop Plan A...<BR>just do it with some self-<B>honesty</B> in the front (not back) of your mind. You don't have to hurt yourself.<P>Your love for your W is a remarkble thing! <BR>God's love for you (and your family) is even more total! <P>Jim

Just getting ready to zip off to the airport for my BIL’s funeral, so I’ll be back on Sunday.<P>#1 it is.<P>yy - Response? Hah! I would be very surprised if she even mentioned it at all. I’m not setting myself up for disappointment and I don’t think there is much better than her. It’s just that she’s mental at the present time. Perhaps she’ll come around, perhaps not. Not my “problem” at this point as there is not much I can do.<P>I talked with Steve H 2 weeks ago. He said I should start sending a card or short letter every 3-4 weeks. Nothing strong or long, but something to put ME in front of her to remind her. I have only sent her 3 cards since she left. A short note & apologies on all for love busting on the phone.<P>I’m still going strong. I know it’s very possible she won’t return, so I’m not daydreaming that she will at some point. I’m shooting for the 2 years that Harley recommends. Don’t know if I’ll make it, but gotta have some sort of goal. Some can’t do it and some think I’m loony for waiting. I’m not suffering because she is not around to have to deal with.<P>I will write something personal on the card and I can increase the messages as time goes on. Don’t want to overburden her right away. Maybe for Christmas?<P>They aren’t my sayings. They were on cards at the store. Emily Matthews on American Greetings.<P>Yes I am doing this because I Love Her & I want her to know it. I haven’t been hurt by anything she has done since she left, except when she was pissed off about the money & when she said we should talk about divorce. It hurts just that she’s gone.<P>I don’t love bust & when I do I know it & I apologize. Also, I know I can get along without her in my life & I’m ready to do just that, but...<P>WE deserve a chance. The kids deserve a chance. Vows & oaths to God and each other were made in front of friends & families. I’m sticking to it best as I can. I bought the whole package & it’s just banged & dented now, not totally smashed. Yet. (although others may argue this point.)<P>See ya’ in a few days!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Chris,<P>You certainly are a pillar of strength <P>I'm rooting for you!<P>Take Care<P>p.s. could you send me a sample of your DNA to slip into my H's drink? <p>[This message has been edited by yy (edited December 01, 1999).]