Last year my husband of 21 years moved out of my home because we were constantly arguing over the raising of our two teenage girls. Two months after he had moved out, he suddenly quit his job and moved to another state with no warning, only a voice mail message apologizing for his decision to move out of state. Upon his sudden move, I contacted his employer to return some items he had left at home and while there found out that an acquaintance of ours had also moved to the same state. The ow has a business in the building were my husband worked, we had been to her home and spend a holiday weekend with her family and my family so I considered her a friend. This was a shock to me, I discovered that she too had moved out of her home and was in the process of a divorce. To make a long story short, I found out from my husband that he was living with her in the other state. Throughout this time, he continued to call home daily and called me at work several times a day. At first he was very angry and our conversations weren't plesant, as time went on I could tell he was missed home and was ready to come back. I agreed to have move back home and work at keeping our marriage and family together. It has been 7 months since he has been home, my problem is the other woman moved back to our home state and they have been seeing each other. He has disappeared several times and after confronting him found out he had been seeing her. Last month, my h told me he was buying a pick-up truck and showed up with a truck. When I asked for the papers to the truck, he said he had them at work. I continued to pressure him into showing me the papers he continued to put me off. Finally I looked through his wallet, something I had never done and found the registration and insurance card for the truck in the ow name. what i found out is that she purchased he truck for him, because he wasn't able to secure financing for it. Since then we have started counseling and he has promised it is over and we had a document signed by her and him, notarized stating the vehicle is his and that he is responsible for payments, etc. In the last couple of weeks things have been going very well with us, however the other night he had a small card in his pocket and took it out, it was from a legal service on the back was a copy of the divorce papers of the ow, he apparently didn't know what the card was because he left it in plain view, when I questioned him he said she had stopped by his job to drop the papers of the truck off and had handed him this card. I took the card and cut it up and mailed it to her, I was so angry. Well this morning my h calls upset and said that why did I do that. That I was being evil and called myself a christian. I asked him how did he find out and he said he had called her because the truck was having problems and need to take it in and wanted her to know. Now he is mad at me and I'm not sure how to handle. I love my h with all my heart and have read many books and like I stated am going to counseling, but I am in a constant state of depression, although I'm taking medication for it. I feel like I have lost control of my life. I have confronted the om and she says she loves him and that he is only with me for the kids, but I have asked my husband if he want the divorce and he says no. We have recently bought a new home and he is constantly making plans for the future. I think he wants out of that relationship, but doesn't know how to get out. She lives very near to his job and seems to be willing to take him in anytime.<P>I'm loosing my mind, any suggestions on how to handle this situation. Thanks for your responses.