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#364095 02/26/00 09:45 AM
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When the betrayer is caught in an affair and neglecting their spouse and children, are they really moving on, or is this just the fantasy? So many of the wayward we read about on this board seem to be moving on and not looking back. Is it really that easy for them and are they moving on or just not dealing with reality?<P>AD

#364096 02/26/00 10:31 AM
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I have wondered the same thing for almost 3 yrs. I hope you get lots of responses to this question--it will help a lot of us to maybe understand what the heck happened to our marriages.

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I have wondered the same thing for almost 3 yrs. I hope you get lots of responses to this question--it will help a lot of us to maybe understand what the heck happened to our marriages. I'm still courious as to why some betrayers decide to try and others just walk away. What is the common thread among the betrayers who decide to return and try to restore the marriage?

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I believe that what they are trying not to deal with is their guilt (for quite a few of the betrayers anyway - there are always exceptions). For whatever reasons their affair started, the 'feelings' in a new relationship or loss of a job and the resulting guilt over not being 'able to provide', they then have the added shame over the affair. I think many of them don't want to look back because they're afraid of what they will see. Does this make sense? Sorry, I seem to be rambling.


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