I need some other perspectives. I have put together a letter to send to my wife's OM. I have thought about it for 3 weeks now. Should I do it or not. I'm also not 100% sure I have his e-mail address. Only an e-mail from her in which she says to this person that she loves him and signed it "Your Baby Girl" I am not usually a confrontational type of person. Anyway, if any of you have some thoughts on this please let me know. Thanks.<P>Here is the letter:<P>To Whoever,<BR> While we have never met I feel I need to say a few things to you. I understand that you have already been through a divorce. So have I. So we both know the pain that can bring to all the families involved. I was also led to believe that you believe in God. I don't, however, know if that belief has led you to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ.<BR> Wife has told me that you and her are involved. I do know that the two of you have become emotionally attached to the other. I don't know if the two of you have had intercourse. She says that that information is personal. If she feels safe enough to stay at your house and you have been listening to her problems and experiencing extremely pleasant and intense feelings for each other, the climate certainly exists for the event to occur. I am her husband and as such, these things concern me a great deal. If neither of you is able or willing to put a stop to this I see great Spiritual harm to many as a result. This unfaithfulness will haunt you for the rest of your lives and beyond this earth if it is not stopped before it is too late.<BR> If both of you decide this is what you want, obviously, there is no more I and others of the Body of Christian believers can do but continue to sound the warning and to keep you in our prayers. If Any of us is off base here God Himself is certainly able to step in and reveal the truth to us.<BR> I know that I have part of the responsibility for this set of cicumstances resting on me. I am not perfect either. It is my intention to try to get Wife and I to resolve whatever stands in the way of our continuing our relationship. If we use the world's standards to judge this situation instead of the Word of God, I know that it makes sense for the two of you to stay involved. How can anything that feels so good and right not be right? Believe me I've been there! I made the foolish mistake of stepping out on my first wife only to have it blow up in my face. Had I imagined what lay ahead for me I would never had taken the plunge. I was scared. Partly due to the effect it had on my relationship to God and what I saw happen to the women I was with. I saw her husband start beating her and him ending up in jail as a result. I lost my kids and my house and my "Home". I lost respect for myself.<BR> I will try with all the might and help of God to see this thing through to a happy ending for all involved. I love Wife dearly and have invested the last 6 years to rebuild my life with her. I will not try to dictate to either of you what to do! Both of you have your own personal battles to wage and I won't presume to know what either of you are up against, but please consider these words carefully as you plan for your futures.<BR> My opinion. Stealing another man's wife tells me alot about the character of the one caught up in this kind of temptation. Are you both oblivious to the pain you are causing ?!?!?! Is it so important that you both would be so selfish. I have done nothing to cause her to make this kind of decision. She does this of her own free will. I did not drive her to do it. There is no excuse before God for this kind of unfaithfulness. It will reap it's own reward. Stop what you both are doing to so many around you that love you, that pray and are willing to find and work solutions for both of your needs to be met according to the will of God.<P>Yours in the Love of Christ,<BR>John E. Konkle<P>------------------<BR>John<P>[This message has been edited by MusicMan (edited December 01, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by MusicMan (edited December 01, 1999).]
