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Am I stupid or what?
#364621 02/28/00 10:30 AM
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I honestly believed my h when he said he was having no contact with the ow. I looked in h wallet and found a used calling card, called the calling card company and found out he has been calling her at least every 2 weeks for the last month. Confronted h and he said that he is trying to ween himself. For the last 8 months I have believed that he truly has not talked to her. He said he used to call her more. I really believed that things were going well between us he even says things are going well. Through this whole thing, I have never wanted him to leave. Now I could really care less if he goes [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] or if he stays. For the last 2 yrs he has given her his best and I am tired of the left overs. He claims he wants to stay, but how much is this supposed to cost me? I am just really tired of the whole thing.
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{Derby}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I've been there, have the T-shirt, hat wristbands, & commemorative placque. I'm not sure which I hate more, the lies or the contact...and I know the lies and contact are both just components of the affair, not separate, but it doesn't make me feel better when I'm angry.<P>Lor
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No way girl-you are NOT stupid at all. But your H sure is.<P>I am truly sorry you are having to go through this-you don't deserve it!<P>Follow your heart and your head. Big hugs from my place to yours!!!<P>
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#364624 02/28/00 10:27 PM
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Fallen Angel,<BR>My h too had his affair with good friend of mine. When you lose both your h and the friend that you confided in, you truly find out what you are made of. I have learned that by myself I won't make it very far. God has been very gracious in carrying me through this whole ordeal. Even after 8 months I still think of things that I would have told my "friend". I'm not sure where my heart is right now. My h is a great guy with one glaring flaw. I don't know if we are going to make it beyond the flaw or not. I guess time will tell. Thanks for your encouragements [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Lor,<BR>I know you have been here and done this many times. I hope things are on the upside for you right now. Hope your h is still realizing what a catch he has in you.
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Hello Derby-<P>I was just thinking about you-and wondering how you are doing today?? I have been sending positive thoughts your way. I sure hope it is helping [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Have a happy day!!

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