my H has moved out to be with OW says he loves me and that he will be back that he just needs time to sort out his feelings its been three weeks. how long does he need?

vett,<P>I am so sorry that you have to be here, but glad that you found this site just the same. <BR>I don't know how to do the link but if you go to "Just found out" you will find a post from NSR about welcomeing "newbies". He has a lot of links to pertinent information that you may find useful.<BR>I am not in your situation but there are some here who are or who have been. Hopefully one of them will reply to you soon. <BR>Do a search on user name Lostva. She was in your situation until recently(her husband is now home). She is the Plan A queen.<BR>I wish I had some better advice to offer you. Just know that you have found a good place with a lot of very good people who are more than willing to reach out and help you.<BR>God Bless<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole <p>[This message has been edited by Patient Love (edited February 29, 2000).]

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Hi Vett and Welcome,<P>Patient Love gave you some very good starting points....go find NSR's welcome thread and read all that he suggests - for implementation tips, check out the different threads for posters in similar circumstances and Lostva is definitely an excellant example of Plan A'ing and patience!!!<P>You weren't really clear whether your H has moved in WITH OW or just out to his own place - could you clarify that?<P>There is no set amount of time for this, every situation is different. What you need to do is concentrate on learning how you can examine and improve YOUR OWN behavior and perspective enough to be in a position of rebuilding your marriage into a better and ever-lasting one for when he is ready. You can get through this....Honest - you can!!<P>And we will help you.....<P>Now go read and then tell us more about you, your H and your marriage. <P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba