My husband had an affair for 7 years, and 4 years into that one had another one for 2 years. I caught him at the 2 year one & we were "working on staying together". As things seems "ok", I found out about the 7 year one. The 7 year one didn't even know atoub the 2 year one! He hasn't seen either since the seperate days i found out. He wants to make it work, but he moved out yesterday to "find himself". He can't understand why he did what he did and it scares him. He says he loves me & I believe him. We have two teenagers who are trying to understand all that is going on too. Before he left he told them everything, apologized and said he was leaving for awhile to work things out with himself. I love my husband very much and I really want to work things out.... but how long do I wait??? it's been 2 1/2 years since the first time I found out, and New Year's Eve was when I found about the 7 year one.

I don't really have any advice except to say I hope everything works out for you. My H has moved out as well, but he wants a divorce. Don't really know where we're headed but I am trying to stay positive. Read "Surviving An Affair" and "Divorce Busting".<P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com

Hi, I don't want to scare you. H said the same to me and a week later, he found himself living with OW. It could be legitamate. I am sending a prayer your way. dana<BR>